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He lies to me, even about things that don't matter...

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Question - (17 February 2005) 9 Answers - (Newest, 3 March 2008)
A , anonymous writes:

Hi there, I am having this problem with lying. My boyfriend lies to me all the time, sometimes 3 times a day, and it is about small things that don't matter. It is annoying and makes me feel he is taking me for a fool and it feels like he would lie about the big things too if this is the case.

Furthermore, if I ever question him about something important he says that his memory has failed him, "he does not remember". It is so annoying, how can I cure it, and how am I supposed to think about it???

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008):

Get out now!!! I made the mistake of marrying my liar boyfriend and guess what. Now I have a liar husband. Who I do love....but can't handle the lies anymore. After we were married, I even found out that he is Bi-sexual and intends to act on seeing somebody at least once a year. I had to find out everything by living life as the detective but I can guarantee you he lied about it. Even as I had one of the guys on the phone with me. The other guy was making it up. Man - get out!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008):

Dump him! I recently dumped a guy who lied and lied. "Oh, sorry - I just forgot to txt you. I do that sometimes". And on and on. Now he's txting constantly with some other girl. I really love him, but I'm better than that - being lied to and messed around - I will not stand for that sort of behavior. So I cut him loose, even though it hurt then, and still does now. He was nice, apart from the lying, lol. What's really difficult is that I work with this guy, and have decided (because of fantastic pay), that I will not leave just because of him. He's still nice to me, but knows now that I won't stand for lying or his inconsistencies. It's painful seeing him text the other girl, but I feel good knowing that I was able to stand my ground and not let him mess me around with lies. Your guy sounds exactly like my guy, the quote you put from him is something my guy used quite a few times. Please dump him. And then take care of yourself - maybe revamp your look, have fun, do things that will cheer you up. Show him that you won't let him spoil your fun or upset you. The best revenge is living well. Carpe Diem!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007):

He WILL NOT change. Get out of this relationship fast. Would you accept this behavior from a "friend"? No, of course not. Dump him; you will never be able to trust him. I know, I married my lying boyfriend. He betrayed me over & over again. You already know the answer. Get real.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007):

I have the same trouble. My husband constantly lies to me about little things and when I want to talk about it he just tells me he does not want to argue and says I am sorry. I hate it when he lies. One time we argued I told he I am sick of he's lies and said I am leaving you. The next day I came back home wanting to talk about it and he told me he was out with a girl. I couldnt believe it. Now he lies about going to his moms house. I dont know what to do

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007):

Your not alone I have lived with one for 18years before I faced upto the fact. Thay are nice and kind on the surface and you can find ways to exuse them. Trouble is they are leading you this way. My advice is even with proffesional help they don't get better Please get out before you wasted all your life

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A female reader, vina_101 United Kingdom +, writes (20 November 2006):

vina_101 agony auntDito. Dump his ass. Waste no more time.Kick him to the curb. Lies lies and more lies...you don't need it so loose him. End of.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006):

DUMP HIS ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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A reader, Kelley, writes (18 February 2005):

Just dump him, why waste your time trying to work this guy out. It will teach him a lesson too.

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A reader, Starr, writes (18 February 2005):

Well I would say sit him down and talk to him about how he is making you feel and think.I completely agree with you about your statement "if he lies about the little things,he'll lie about the big things".This is where trust comes into play.You don't want to get too emotionally envolved with a man (or woman)who constantly lies for no reason.If he doesn't listen and continues to do it then you need to do what you feel is the best for you.It could be that he has a problem with telling the truth no matter what.He could just be a compulsive liar.You need to find out what is problem is so that you won't get hurt in the long run.

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