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writes:Why does my ex contine to rub his girlfriend in my face, ive told him enough times i don't want to hear it, do you think his trying to still make me jealous, He knows i don't want him back and he don't want me back, he left me at the end of the day, he keeps telling me his happy and moved on so i don't understand why he wants to get a reaction from me after 7months.I still have to stay in contact with him because we have a 11month old daughter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): hes pathetic insecure and jealous. ignore him and see him for the immature loser he is.
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reader, Miss C + ♥, writes (12 December 2007):
 I agree with Baby duck. I know it's going to be tough but by keeping a hold of yourself and being civilised towards him makes you the better person at the end of the day and just indicates that he really lacks any sort of maturity.
To be honest, he is probably insecure with himself and it seems to me like it's just a rebound relationship and he feels that by showing her off, it will help him to deal with his own personal insecurities. You're perfectly right in saying he wants to get a reaction from you. He wants you to tell him you're jealous and angry and show him how upsetting this is but don't give him that satisfaction. After a while, he will soon get tired of trying to make you jealous and realise how foolish he was.
I applaud you on how well you have handled the situation so far and I'm glad that you can still reamin civil for the sake of your daughter. She is after all, the most important person you need to worry about! Best of luck and hope this has helped some what. Miss C xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): I can't help you with advice, because I have no experince with this. But I can tell you why he may be doing what he's doing.
This is a theory that I think only works when it was you who left him, or at least you who started talking about it.
When this is the case it can be that he feels inferior to you in some way and wants to tell you that he doesn't need you and that he's happy that you ended the relationsship. If it's really like that I think it would be good to talk to him about the ending of the relationship.
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (12 December 2007):
 When you're with him, keep your feelings to yourself and then dump them on close friends with open ears, hearts and minds but sealed lips. Also, journal, journal, journal ... you don't want to reach a point in your friendships that it's all about your ex. Blech.
Keep conversation with him limited to the child you share. When he tells you things you don't want to hear, don't say, "I don't want to hear it." Say, "Why ... how lovely for you. Okay, she has a cold so make sure she gets her Tylenol ever 4 - 6 hours, and push the fluids. Enjoy her and I will see you at this time." and walk away. Always kill him with kindness. Always be the epitome of class and stay focused on why you have to deal with him: you have a child between you.
It's okay to be crass and vulgar with your best friends, but with the father of your child, be nothing but the mother of his child. Do not give him the satisfaction of knowing that he can push your buttons.
Be tough, girlie. You can do this. Best wishes.
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