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writes: Dear cupid, i ended my five yrs relationship with my fiance 4weeks ago because i felt it wasnt moving forward. We didnt set our wedding date several times and he kept on postponing that he wasnt ready. my family now are angry and dont want to hear his name mentioned.He later explained to me recently that the problem he had was with his US visa. He said he married a citizen to get resident and we couldnt get married until a certain period. You see i'm a british citizen studying in the states so i couldnt help him out, but i wished he told me of this problem sooner.I must say i dont believe in what he did and i feel it is wrong.I still love him though and since the break he has been pleading with me to forgive him. I have this other guy which i really do like and he is more responsible. One of your aunties here is my friend and she gave me some advise and suggested i could seek advise from all to get different suggestions. What do i do should i forget about my ex and move on even or forgive him. he said i still have 2yrs to wait until he get's his papers for us to get married and he isnt ready to give up this paper and come to the uk to marry me. Please i need alot of help and suggestions. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2006): Thanks for taking the time to read and answer my posting. i have an insight now what to do.
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reader, tinkerbell +, writes (6 January 2006):
If he married a citizen just to get residency then i would question if he would take marriage seriously, is he remorseful of what he did? Does his estranged wife know that was his intention? If not, I think this man is callous and out for his own gain.Marriage is supposed to be for life, its supposed to be a commitment to the one you love and want to share the rest of your life with. If his residency means more to him than you then I'm afriad you're in for a life of being nothing but second best to him. If he doesn't want to lose you, he will offer to give up his paper and marry you in the UK. If he won't well then I'd question how much you mean to him.I think this guy is shallow and ruthless, he'll stop at nothing to get what he wants. Is that the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with? I don't think you do. You deserve honesty, respect and love. No matter what mistakes people make, what's important is that they own up to them and have enough respect to tell you about them. It seems like your relationship has been based on lies and deceit. I'd forget about him and be with someone who will be honest and upfront with you.
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