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writes:Ok so im a 14 year old girl. this kid i went out with before is 16. he keeps trying to go out with me again. he used to text me to try and get me to send him a pic of me naked and would get mad when i refused. he would tell me im weird and no one likes me cuz im immature. i really like him but he puts a lot of pressure on me. should i try with him again? or say eff that? the last time we went out was in november 09.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok.im going to listen to everyone that replied.thanks so much.wen u all said those things it made me feel better about myself.so thank u.nd he calld me a few min ago n i didnt even answer!score 1 hahaha thanks ;-)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 February 2010):
Do not under any circumstances date him. He is after using and abusing you. You're not the problem at all. He is, and he could land you in a huge amount of danger. Don't date him and cut all contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Oh jeez, this guy doesnt care about you at all and is only trying to get free porn from you. Any man who respects you will NOT ask for nudes of you (unless of course you two are in a committed relationship, trust each other 100% etc etc, which is not the case here).
Reasons why he doesnt care:
1.he used to text me to try and get me to send him a pic of me naked
2. and would get mad when i refused
3. he would tell me im weird
4. and no one likes me cuz im immature.
May I ask why on earth you're even considering him? He just wants to get into your pants because he can't have sex with anyone else and thinks you'll be easy.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Just ask yourself: if he really wanted to be with you, would he be acting so immature himself? He asks you to send him naked pictures of yourself? There's a word for that... begins with a P...
What I fail to understand is why you would even consider being with such an unpleasant, shallow guy in the first place: the moment you fail to do what he says he turns the blame on you, and has a tantrum.
Now think: who's REALLY the immature one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Hello, you shouldn't send naked pictures of yourself to him definitely not! especially if he is pressurising you to do so. him getting mad at you for refusing only proves that he doesn't genuinely care for you so you shouldn't concern yourself with him. he is obviously the immature one in this situation. I think if you go back with him you will only end up getting hurt and I really doubt that this particular boy is worth your thoughts there are far better ones out there your only fourteen you have load of time to find a nice enough boy who will actually care about you! x
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (11 February 2010):
 You're immature because you won't send him naked pictures of yourself? This guy is an a**hole and is trying to take advantage of you. If you get back with him, expect him to pressure you more and try to manipulate you by telling you that no one will like you. He's playing games with your head and trying to make you develop low self-esteem; don't fall for it.
Yes, you should definitely eff it and tell him to eff off! You deserve better and are a lot more mature than girls your age because you stand up for yourself and are nobody's fool.
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 NO. NO NO NO NO NO!
His asking you to send him naked pictures is immature. His getting mad when you won't is immature. His picking on you and making you feel bad for protecting yourself is immature. A guy who puts that kind of pressure on you for things like that only wants one thing. Don't give it to him. He is disrespectful, and a rude jerk.
Once you send out information, you can never guarantee it will stay private, especially with cell phones and the internet. Do not EVER give out naked pictures of yourself. At 14, that's pretty well child porn, also.
To steal the words right out of your mouth, I'd say "Eff that". He's trying to take advantage of you.
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