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He keeps breaking my heart, but I cant seem to let him go. please help..

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Question - (9 August 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 10 August 2008)
A male United States age 30-35, *HNA writes:

im still seeing my ex man. He had a girlfriend, but they broke up, but he recently moved back in with her for personal reasons, but i think they are still together, i saw them together 3 different occasions, so i told him i dont want to see him anymore, but he still calls me and ive been having sex with him. he keeps breaking my heart, but i cant seem to let him go. please help

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008):

Stop doing this. Look what it's doing to you. The only solution I can see here, might be for YOU to become more prideful, strong and self-assured enough, so that you no longer need this guy. Becoming a strong, confident woman is not a means to winning back an old bf who is with someone else and boinking you on the side. It's simply a case of winning back your own self-respect and dignity that he takes everytime, you have sex with him. As long as your ex bf feels that any decision about where he wants to be, who he wants to be with is up to only him, he will feel free to chose whatever option he wants, irregardless of how much pain he causes you. He's sitting in the catbird's seat here and he's enjoying every second of it.

You might really surprise yourself because when you are strong enough to no longer need him, you might not want him back, anyways. Amazing what confidence, self-esteem and inner pride does for a woman. So rather than trying to win him back, take all the energy you could waste on this man and work hard to stop loving him and learn to love yourself, fully and unconditionally. And don't ever forget...for even a very special you are. You take of yourself, hun and get strong and seek truely deserve it

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A female reader, trixx24 United States +, writes (10 August 2008):

trixx24 agony auntStop talking to him!! He just seems to be waisting your time..Is he even worth it??Go out and look for another guy that wont break your heart.if this guy really did care then he wont do the same mistake again.. :D

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (10 August 2008):

hlskitten agony auntYou're addicted. Stop being a fool and never speak to him again. Its as simple or as complex as you want to make it.

C xxxxx

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