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writes: hey aunts. hrmm, i've written quite a few posts within the past few weeks. i'll give u the detailed story... i was with my boyfriend for 8 months and we broke up for 2 months with ALOT of troubles within that two months he, had other girls over, liked his ex and and i found out he cheated on me in our first month datinor to be honest probably 2nd month but i tell myself it's one because it hurts less =( stupidly outta love i got back with him because i dunno, i dunno i let him bully me around and do what he wanted without even sincerely apologisin for what he did, i guess i just wanted to be with him so bad because when i was with him i was happyanyway, we were really good for about 3 months and now 5 months later we are at our down point again, i think he might be cheatin who knows. and i havent felt so insecure, let down, upset, heart broken in my entire lifee... i restrain from cryin and i wont cry for someone who does that to me... or i try not to, thing is, when we spend time with each other we always i mean ALWAYS have fun we're always happy and laughin then wen it comes to leavin, or msn or the phone we are a total wreck 89% of the time =( it's like im dealing with two different people, i just dunno what to feel or think anymore :'( please help me find out what i should doshould i see a professional before i know what to do with the relationship? my head is in real conflict with my heart =( argghh... just wish i had enough strength to either, let go or withstand! but im caught in the middlehe treats me so badly sometimes, always calls me names and yells at me his a scorpio and an angry person sometimes he just has outbursts of anger i know most of the time he doesnt mean to but it hurts soooooo much, then theres the time i feel like im his complete world. and it's a 50/50im trying not to cry writing this but yeh please help me. i dunno what else i can do but keep it all inside, especially because i've tried talkin to him bout it because i also have family problems to go thru aswell =( being with him sometimes reminds me of my ungrateful dad that hits and cheats on my mumwrite bak.x
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 He sounds as if he has anger issues, is a bit manipulative and just isn't consistent with the way he treats a woman. I don't think his behavior has anything to do with the fact that he's a Scorpio man. Zodiac signs are very loose illustrations, generally not true to every individual. I believe he would benefit from counseling as much as you would but I doubt you'd ever get him to go. I do think professional counseling could help you become a stronger person so you can make better decisions about this destructive relationship. If you can afford it, please go. I'm assuming when you're with your b/f, and he's in a good mood, you have asked him, "Why can't you be like this all the time? Why do you treat me so badly when we talk on the phone etc?" That would be the best time to approach these topics - when he's in a good mood. Your b/f could be suffering from some type of bi-polar disorder. I've known people who got involved with mates that had this problem, and they suffered a great deal before they figured it out. You might research it on the internet and see if he fits the description. Maybe he's never been formally diagnosed. It might be something to explore. In the meantime, the only advise I can give you is timing. Some people who are a bit high strung have difficulty juggling tasks. Maybe when you call or text him, he's at work, and he doesn't do well juggling things like that. My b/f is alot like that and has been known to lash out at me when he's under pressure. I've had to learn to recognize his high-strung times, and not approach him for things. Once the mood has passed, he's a totally different person. I know when to talk to him, and when to keep quiet because I now understand his limitations and when he's juggling traffic for instance, he doesn't like alot of side-talk. When he's focusing on a project, or paying bills, he doesn't deal well with distractions. Once I learned this about him, I've found that he's alot calmer around me. I hope this will help you out. Good luck!
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