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He is unappreciative and seems to call only when he needs me - why do I feel I can be so easily swayed by him?

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Question - (29 April 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 29 April 2008)
A female Singapore age 41-50, *ephertite writes:

Ughhh ok I am so frustrated... it honestly is an emotional roller coaster with this guy.. I talked about him earlier and I honestly thought it would be over with him- what with him not calling and all- so last night I get a call from him saying he's really sick and down with the flu. SO he was being all whiney and telling me to come on over with soup and stuff.. I said I could not cause it was pretty late- almost midnight and like I said being from a traditional catholic Asian family i cannot go out tt late.

SO the next day(today) I got up early, straightened up the home for my mum made a quick lunch for my grandmother and decided to go out to buy him soup. And the temperature today hit the roof- its a tremendously hot day and yet! I went out to search for soup!

And as my rotten luck would have it, all the shops were either out of it or not selling any darn soup. SO I bought the chicken and all the necessary ingredients and decided to head home and make the soup from scratch.

I also made him barely water cuz its supposed to cool the body down when you're running a temperature. So yes I made the soup and barley and went over to his place ( he told me clearly the night before that he would be home cuz he's too ill to go anywhere cuz i hinted that i'd come over the next day)

So yes when i got to his place i called and texted him saying i made soup and that he jsut needs to collect it and i'd be gone so he can eat and rest. SO I waited outside in the SUN, in the sweltering heat!! But he din answer my calls or texts. So after an hour- which seemed like an eternity.. he said "hey sorry I'm at a friend's place"- not home. And i said "oookay I feel like an arse, so I'll just leave then" and he jsut replied, ÿeah I'm terribly sorry".

And that was it he did not attempt to call even. He didn't even seem appreciative.. I mean I made SOUP!! He knows I don't make soup! I don't! Not for anyone! Ughhh!! I don't even know why I did it! The next time I make soup for a man i'm gonna have to be Married!

He is unappreciative and seems to call only when he needs me so why do i keep entertaining him when i know better? I knwo i should jsut walk away cuz I am better than that and deserve better honestly... Why is it that I feel like I can be so easily swayed by him?! I don't like this feeling at all!

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A female reader, Nephertite Singapore +, writes (29 April 2008):

Nephertite is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Nephertite agony auntfine i guess I am an idiot... ughhh and yes I have deleted him and I shall stay away.. thanks guys!

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A female reader, lexilou United Kingdom +, writes (29 April 2008):

lexilou agony auntCut your losses and delete this guy out of your phone and out of your life. He is a player and loves the attention. You might find he wont leave you alone for a while when he realises you dont want him anymore but just ignore him or be firm about not seeing him. Tell him you cant talk your getting ready for a date if it makes you feel better! This man is stopping you meeting someone special who'd be there to make soup for you if you were the poorly one. Good luck and be strong x

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (29 April 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntPeople are used because they allow themselves to be used. If you don't like the way he treats you, then don't allow it. You control your own destiny, take charge.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (29 April 2008):

Because you are an idiot!

What did you expect to happen? This guy rings you because he knows you are too soft and will come running to him.

Don't.

You've been foolish and you've paid the price. Learn from this and don't do it again. If he calls you again, just remember the soup and how stupid you felt and leave him to it.

Good Luck!! xx

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