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writes:Ive been with this guys for 4 years now, and it always seems to be about him. I got him a hampster for christmas for it to be like our pet type thing, he gets to keep him, so I choose the name theodore for him, well hes telling everyone its jose. it upsets me because i named him and it seems like hes not mine. he doesnt care it upsets me, even tho i tell him everytime i heard someone else call him the wrong name. but thats not all. whenever i tell him something is wrong or something important he goes "ok" "im sorry" or "alright" he never communicates with me. his very shady when it comes to girls, and he cant be honest with me. i love him to death but i really dont think he cares for me, because when I really need him he is never there, except for hurting me somehow. urg!
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reader, EyesofJag +, writes (5 February 2010):
Judging by how you describe him, he seems to be very possessive. Here is where you really have to take a good look at yourself and your self-worth. How can you guys grow if you don't have a true conversation? Trust is extremely important and if you can't trust him now, how can you trust him later? You have to be strong and talk to him to about how you feel. If he still doesn't care at all to even listen, then you really need to reconsider the relationship and yourself.
I know from personal experience that it is so much easier said than done, but if you're constantly being hurt emotionally by him, you have to realize what matters most to you.
Another thing, if someone is truly sorry, they ask for forgiveness and try not to hurt you the same way again. You have to see how much he actually means it instead of just saying it.
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