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writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for nearly three years, things are good although he is stressed at work.My problem is that he hardly ever initiates sex, I've been happy to initiate in the past but its starting to annoy me. I tried to ignore any urges for the last 2 weeks and see if he would make any advances but he doesn't seem to want to make the effort. Its driving me insane! I don't want to hurt his feelings, and its a tough subject to broach but I'm starting to feel totally unattractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): maam. i went off sex when i was married too. mostly this was the effects of stress. him knowing you are unhappy is just going to make it only worse if that seems possible.putting nice undies on, normally the red flag, will also add pressure. massage without any hint of it leading further may help,taking him into your mouth should help too! Watching you pleasure yourself if thats possible will take pressure off him and might ignite the engines, but really he justs wants understanding and the stress taking away. believe me its killing him inside now so just give the love that girls expect in times like this, and see to your needs via ann summers !!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (31 January 2007):
 I'm sorry, I disagree with the other person who gave you advice. I really don't think he's cheating on you. Cheats normally have more sex with their partners. I think it comes down to him being stressed and tired out. Be patient with him but on his days off try to persuade him to stay in bed and relax with you and see where it goes. Put sex across as something that will de-stress him (which is the truth- orgasm releases loads of stress busting chemicals into the body) Good luck.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (31 January 2007):
Tell him he doesnt make you feel wanted or sexy. Walk around the place in your best underwear and if he doesnt try it on, its best to tell him he doesnt quite do it for you. But dont forget that he could have something wrong hes not telling you. Like he thinks hes not good in bed. OR he could be cheating on you.
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