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writes:My (gay) boyfriend and I have dated for more than a year and have been living together for one. Last month I found out accidentally that he has been looking for a room (he wanted to move out). I actually found that he has been looking for a room since 2 months ago. I talked to him and after making certain changes to our place (he argued he wanted to move out because he does not like our current place) he said he will stay and not long for a room anymore. Just recently I was using his computer and noted that he is still looking for a room. What should I do? Should I talk with him AGAIN? I really love him and want him to stay with me!Not sure if matters but I should mention that it is actually the second time we are dating. The first time he broke up with me because he found another guy. He told me then he will be back after going home for just 3 days. 3 days passed and he didn’t come back. I called him to find out what was going on and he told me he wanted to break up with me so we did. Six months later he contacted me and told me he wanted to reconnect (his former relationship didn't work) so I gave him a second chance and we have been together since.I should also mention that during the year we have been together I have found a couple of text messages (of a sexual nature) from other guys that really concern me! Giving our history I am afraid he has/is chatting on me but I do not have any proof. I have actually talked to him about this text messages and he denies any wrongdoing.Thx for your help!Jason
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (18 September 2012):
 Good job dumping him! I'm sorry it had to end that way but at least the loser can be out of your life. It hurts now but he did you a favor, when someone treats you like crap and cheats it is much easier to move on because you KNOW you can do better and HE was the one at fault. Now just keep busy to keep your mind off of him and you will move on in time. Then meet a nice guy :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 September 2012):
 oh Jason yes it hurts...
and it will hurt for a few weeks
then you get on with life and it hurts a little less every day you put one foot in front of the other and keep on moving.
Hugs to you for being brave enough to confront him and get the truth and being strong enough to take care of yourself even though it's LOUSY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for all of your answers, I really appreciate them! and you were all RIGHT! I talked to him (AGAIN!) and he confessed. He cheated on me AGAIN. I broke up with him. IT HURTS.
Jason
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (13 September 2012):
I think you know the answer to this too... He has cheated on you before. Left you. Came back to you only because that relationship didn't work out. Now he has lied to you twice about trying to move out. And you find sexual texts on his phone. You are essentially his doormat and he is treating you as such. He knows he can do whatever he wants, even cheat and leave for months, and you will be waiting there for him. My advice is definitely to leave him. But if you aren't strong enough because you love him he will be leaving you anyway. He's making plans to move out, it's clear what his intentions are. If he comes back in a year don't take him back... Get some self respect and know you deserve better than someone who treats you this way. Remember you will be treated how you allow yourself to be treated and if you know you deserve better and have self respect, others will respect you. It's very hard for a person to respect another and treat them correctly when the person doesn't even respect himself.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 September 2012):
 "AGAIN????" C'mon, Jason, you KNOW the "answer" to this...
Good luck...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 September 2012):
I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but this man is using you...
He is looking for a room
he's looking for other partners
he's cheated on you before
you are filler till something better comes along.
It sucks honey and I'm sorry.
basically you say you really love him... and if you really love him then you want him to be happy... if he's not happy with you, then you should want him to be happy... right? even if that means not being with you...
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