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He is ignoring my calls and my texts! Should I dump him or did he just 'not' get my messages?

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Question - (29 December 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 8 January 2007)
A female United Kingdom, *hely2294 writes:

My latest relationship has been bliss, but recently after Christmas, he hasnt reply to any of my Texts or emails, he is never on msn, And i cant get through to his home phone, I have been thinking of dumping him, And i Changed my mind, part of me thinks he got the message, but then again, maybe he hasnt, am i just being paranoid?

I Don't Know what to do please help


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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007):

Hello, i have been having a similar problem me and my boyfriend decided to 'Just Be Friends' about 4 days ago i still really like him and think he still likes me because we still spoke all the time and talked the way we did when we were together but two days ago he said that he had no credit on his phone and would be able to send anymore txts but he usually tops his phone up the next day but i have been txtin him but he never replys what should i do....give up or keep trying???


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A female reader, Hag +, writes (30 December 2006):

Looks like you don't get the privilege of 'dumping' him. Appears he has already 'dumped' you. Only advice to give you is if you feel you are in love with this man, go ahead and move on with your personal goals and try to remain focused on that. From my personal experience, I will tell you, do NOT try to get over him in any way you'll regret later. Remain true to your heart, but at the same time, try not to obsess. You have left the man enough messages that trying to contact him any more AT ALL will only drive him farther away. I PROMISE YOU THAT!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2006):

No you aren't being paranoid, hun and I do think you should dump him and I'll tell you why? This sounds like a fairly recent relationship. Recently though, he's disappeared. No replies to any of your texts, your emails or phone calls. What is wrong with this picture? A lot! When a guy truely likes a female, he wants to be with her, he wants to contact her...all the time. You like him and now you are struggling emotionally, with his 'confusing' behaviours. You are thinking up a 'lame excuse' which is-"maybe he hasn't recieved my messages?" That doesn't matter...if he really wanted to be with you-he'd be calling you. Guys that are seriously into a realtionship, are never that forgetful and never too busy to call the girl they adore. In a nutshell, if he was crazy about you-you would not have to call him, text him nor email him, in the first place. There is nothing confusing here, dear. I am sorry to say this but his actions are telling you he's not at the same place in this relationship as you are...plain and simple. When a man wants to be with a special girl, he will never allow her to be confused or baffled. He would, never ever allow her to wonder for fear that she would bail on him and move on. He's not doing this, is he? He's a flake and you keep living on the hope he'll call-stop doing that to yourself. He being an unreliable, disrespectful guy and you need to accept the reality here, because dating someone who is good for you, shouldn't keep you wondering. That is a BIG red flag, hun and you need to leave him in the dust. This won't be easy because women tend to deny, ignore and rationalize all the bad signs about a guy who isn't right for them. Get smart and stop contact today with him...and just move on to better, more wonderful opportunities out there. He's not for you and it's his loss. Take care dear and be strong.

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A female reader, kellyO United Kingdom +, writes (29 December 2006):

kellyO agony auntHi dear,

i would suggest u wait. you arent being paranoid becos naturally he ought to respond to ur mails or call u when he hasnt heard from u.

In the meantime, dont worry too much go out and try to enjoy yourself this period.


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