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writes:Is he attracted to me? I really feel like a goofy teenager again. I started a new job and have developed a crush on one of my colleagues. Its started off as a few harmless pranks I played on him, but under the laughter I realized I fancied him. He seems to really appreciate my pranks and humor and often comes over to tease me or do something childish to torment me. He recently started touching me a bit as well, for example, trying to make me jump by gently poking my sides when I am on the photocopier. We don't usually have a chance to be really alone, but the one time he caught me in the canteen he twice brought the conversation around to whether I have a boyfriend or not. He even has a joke pet name for me. All these signs lead me to think that he may be attracted to me, but he gives mixed messages, as sometime he acts a bit cold. Though perhaps he could just be stressed out or too busy. I really want to ask him out but am pretty scared as I am deep down very shy, underneath the sarcasm, teasing and humor. Does this guy like me and should I give it a shot making my feelings known clearly?
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reader, rachal  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 i think you should just let him make the first move. my last bf was the new kid in school, but already had a lot of friends so there was no reason to open up to just me. well he really liked me but would'nt make a move because of problems that he had with his family. his mom was a coke addict, his father has MS, his brother lived with his mother's parents, and he lived with his dad's parents. i just had to sit down and talk one-on-one with him to find out everything. maybe that's what you should do, just ask him out to lunch or something. and if he's reluctant add a,"just as friends" in there. he'll respect that you're not trying to pressure him into anything that he doesn't want to do at the moment.good luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 Apparently he does fancy you. Yes, maybe you should give it a shot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): The simple answer is if he's interested, he'll ask you out. He may be attracted to you, but he may be stopping himself from proceeding further because of some show-stopper that you may not be able to control (ie race or religion). To exclude this as a possibility go have lunch and ask him what his ideal mate might be -- you will have your answer then!
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