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writes:Friends I want help ! ??please give me some suggestions I fell in love I don't know what to do My age is 14 and my bf age is 19 ,we 're best friends now we are dating ! And I really love him I don't wanna lose him any more i have too many burden of studies ,my parents are forcing me to stay at home no friends dont talk to anybody not to make any friends and my bf now days He is too busy in his exams his festivals and also he got backups in exams he is a Muslim guy he lost his virginty but I trust him he didn't talk to me for 2-3 months sometimes we talk whenever I message him he never reply The reply is only hmmm hmm.... he said that he can't talk to me because his parents seen our messges and scold him and said not to talk to me anymore What I do should i breakup with him For my parents Or should I wait for him
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Please delete his number and stop contacting him. It is clear that he does not want to be with you. You are a child compared to him, if it was here in my country he would be in jail for dating someone so young. Please listen to your parents, when you are older you will see that they where trying to protect you, not punish you. You are still very young, I am sure you can leave dating until you are older and more mature?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (17 July 2016):
 A question I have is how do you have no friends because your parents supposedly don't let you go out, but you talk to this man who is too old for you?
If you can go out to meet him, you can go out to make friends. Are you in school? Or know of any places girls your age like to go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2016): You are under-aged and he is most correct to ignore a child who is secretly defiant to the wishes, guidance, and authority of her parents. You are too young, and you are taking risks your young mind and body are incapable of handling.
You need time for your mind to develop to the degree it can handle what you are trying to deal with before you've even outgrown your puberty. Too often young girls are caught-up in their fantasies of love. They sometimes do things that eventually may get them into trouble. Trouble that can change their lives before they are mature enough to handle what they do physically and psychologically. His culture and religion my also come into play. Especially if you are not of the same faith.
Your awareness of his loss of his virginity, raises more reason for concern for a girl your age. You're over your head. Loss of your virginity at your age and in your culture is very very serious. More for a female than a male.
If you know his and your parents are not happy about it, your defiance is the utmost disrespect for those who care for you and your future. It's the utmost disrespect for yourself; when he ignores you and you still try to carry-on some make-believe relationship that you're too young to handle in the first place.
Give your attention to your studies, enjoying friends, having fun, and boys your own age. Allow time to mature you to the point you are able to make good decisions, and handle the consequences of your mistakes.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 July 2016):
 If he is a Muslim, and you are not, and you live in India - come on, you know it's a no go , and you are wasting your time.
Not that in India there can't be any interfaith couples who decide to defy traditions , society and parents, - but they are older, in serious, committed relationships, and - financially independent.
Anyway, it sounds that your bf has decided for you too and wants to be an EX bf. He is surely not fighting to be with you , so... don't fight to be with him and listen to your parents.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 July 2016):
You should break up. Until you're 17, you have to make sure you don't date anyone over 1 year older than you. If you were 17 and he was 19, it wouldn't be a bid deal, but he's an adult and you're a child.
Let him go, OP.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (17 July 2016):
Young lady, I think you should let him go and try to forget about him. To my mind you are still a child and he is an adult. At 19 I would not have considered a 14 year-old datable. Even if I did, in the UK I could have found myself in trouble with the law.
I think that although there is only 5 years difference in age between you, you are both at very different stages of your lives. In your mid-20s, 5 years is nothing at all, but right now it matters a great deal. His parents are right to advise him to stay away and I think you need to keep your distance, sorry.
I wish you all the very best.
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