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writes:My boyfriend invited someone he had previously had an romantic encounter with around to stay when he knew i was away that weekend. He didn't tell me about it but i found out and presumed it was for more than company on a night in. He said it wasn't but has said contradictory things and i'm not sure what to believe is the truth. I want to be with him but also want him to meet up with this person (who he's seen a few times in the last five or so years)so he can know what his true feelings are. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): I don't know how to add to my question - but i should probably have said she didn't come over in the end anyway. It was literally a one night thing they had before. He hasn't done this before and i really want to trust him.
Isn't being in a relationship also about forgiveness or am i being a fool for wanting to stay with him? I've never been as happy as i have been since i've been with him and i thought he was my "one".
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): sweetie....they were enjoying each other's company alright....he didnt have her over for conversation. i think if this was your girlfriend you would see it a lot clearer. hugs, mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Your BF is showing you massive disrespect by inviting ex-romances over yo his place when you are not around. I'm sorry, but I think he is cheating on you. Leave this guy as he is clearly a confused little child with no idea what he wants. You deserve better. There are plenty of out there who would like to be with you and only you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 July 2010):
He didn't tell you about it.
She's an ex.
And he is saying contradictory things.
You know where you stand with him. You might want to be with him, but there is no way it will work. Reason? He doesn't know how he feels about either of you, and will use you both until he finds a third women that he suddenly realizes he likes even more than you both. Stay with this guy, and your life will start to slip away. You want marriage? He won't give it, or if he does, it will fail. You want kids? He won't give them, or if he does, he'll walk.
You're wasting your time with this guy. End it and find one who wants you, and only you.
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