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He hits me when he is drunk....how long should I ignore him for this time?

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Question - (12 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 July 2010)
A female India age 30-35, anonymous writes:

my bf hit me once drunk...because i went out with a "slut" for a party..he was scared i'll turn into her pretty insecure bf there..but the fact that he hit me wasnt good.i stopped talking for a week and he came back begging for me..so i got back with him..he said he would never do that to me again.

so i got back to him only after a week.so now day before theres this guy in our class (me and my bf are classmates) who likes me..and hes my bfs friend..he actually dosent like him much just because that friend flirts with me..so all three of us were going on a car ride..and i didnt know my bf was drunk..when i asked his friend for a cigarette..(actually was kidding and i dont smoke) my bf got angry and he started hitting me..and i cried ..i went back home and stopped talking to him again ..its been three days..but the problem is i really love him..but hate him for hitting me for no reason..he just went on hitting me again and again until we reached..his friend was scared ..he just drove fast so that i can escape..now i just want to know how long should i ignore him for what he did..i dont want to break up.. because i really love him and hes my first bf..i feel pathetic plz help

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010):

My dear child, I'm so sorry this happened to you :( Please, please please do NOT go back to this man, he will absolutely beat you again and again and again for as long as youare with him. Your happiness is on the line here. Leave him now and youwill hurt for a couple of months...stay with him and you will hurt for a long, long time.

Be forewarned, he will make promises to you, perhaps even offer to get proffessional help,but he is only telling you what he thinks you want to hear, that's all! Never, ever give a man a second chance to hit you.

You would be wise to remember this...there sre only two types of men. Men that hit women and men that don't.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (12 July 2010):

You need to break up. Your boyfriend is just going to continue to beat you, and could kill you. You must break up with him. Don't feel pathetic here. You're not pathetic. He is the one who is pathetic. But I'm sure you'll want to have children in future. You couldn't have children with this man, because he might hit them. Or worse, he might hit you so badly that you can't have children. Or your children will see nothing but violence. This is a a bad man, and he won't stop hitting you, because he now knows that you'll go back to him whatever he does. So, don't go back. End it with him and find a man who won't hurt you. He will continue to do it until you're dead, or until you are living in fear for the rest of your life. Don't go back to him.

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