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writes:I recently met a guy, (meaning 4-5 days ago), and we hit it off right away.My question has to do with whether or not I should back out before I'm too deep in.There are a few things that make me uncomfortable.My biggest concern: Since I've been sleeping at his house for several days, I've noticed he has nude photos of his ex wife/ex-girlfriend. I didn't find these snooping...He has them framed and out around his house, totally apparent...This seems a bit strange to me.He claims he wants to marry someone else, that he's looking for marriage, more children, (he has one daughter), and he wants to do the 'settle down' thing.That's fine and dandy, but if he's got framed photos of his ex nude, is he really ready to move onto anything but a casual-sex relationship, (which is sort of the point I'm at with him now)?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses, UPDATE:No, he's not an artist or photographer. The photos are 'art-sy.'I could understand having them out for one day, but he hasn't bothered to move them within the few days I was staying there. No, I haven't mentioned it because I felt like, since I hardly know him, I should wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Is he by any chance a photographer or an artist?? Cause if he is, then I wouldn't find it so so strange. Well I'll tell you something. Me and my boyfriend started dating pretty fast too. It's a bit different, but when I first went to his house, I guess he wasn't expecting me to come over, and I noticed he had a porn movie and a few graphic magazines laying around. I didn't say anything though. I acted like I didn't even notice. But the next time I went over, the porn movie and magazines were out of sight. See where I am going with this?? I mean he had enough sense and enough respect for my feelings (without me having to tell him) so that he hid certain things from my sight so that I would feel comfortable in his house and feel like he respects me and he is serious about me. I mean had I gone over again and he still had those things strewn about, I would have felt like he didn't really care. So, with that said, unless he is an artist or photographer (and even then...), I would definitely take his disregard for how you might feel seeing these naked pics of his ex as a sign that he does not really care too much about how you feel. You shouldn't have to spell it out for a guy. Guy's know. Believe me. So if I were you I would definitely not take this guy too seriously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): How strange - even if you had pics like that, why would you frame them for all to see? Have you asked him?
Sounds like he is not over her and may even be a bit obsessive - knowone keeps pics like that of their exs do they? Not if they are having other relationships - he didnt even have the curtisy to hide them when he took you home. You might be best off away from this one. Is a very strange thing to do.
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