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My husband of 10 yrs gets drunk and smokes pot everyday, I want to leave, but I'm worried for my childrens safety!!

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Question - (3 April 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 6 May 2007)
A female United States age 51-59, *ivorce? Again? writes:

I am 38 years old, I have 5 children and I am contemplating divorse for the 2nd time.

My Husband and I have been together 10 years. He gets drunk everyday and is a pot smoker. He blacks out and doesn't remember picking fights with me (or so he says)and then acts like everything is ok. He hasn't been employed for 7 years. I work 60 hours every week to support my kids and he spends it like it is his. He is jelous of my friends and my family and trys very hard to not let me communicate with them. (doesn't work though). He attends school right now but I have no faith that he will maintain a job once he is finished.

I have told my husband that the relationship is over and he acts like this is coming out of the blue and assumes I am seeing someone else. I am not seeing anyone else and I have been telling him for years that I can not take much more of this. I am at my breaking point. I'm done.

I do realize that my kids and I will be much better off without him living here but I am afraid of what he is capable of doing to us or himself when I kick him out. I am also afraid of letting him have the kids unsupervised after he leaves.

How do I get through this fear? And is there anything I can do legally to protect my children and myself from him if he doesn't have anything on record for abuse? He did take a gun out once and threaten to kill himself and I called the police. They removed him from the home but since he didn't actually point the gun at me or himself they said there was nothing they could do about it and he came back the next day and blamed me for calling the police. He did loose his driver's license over this because it was restricted from 3 previous DWI's

Please advise me if you can and help me find the courage I need to have to do the right thing.

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A female reader, miss fit United Kingdom +, writes (6 May 2007):

this guy is a total loser and your pushing your kids along the road to his life by staying with him. don't worry about him having the kids unsupervised after your split though, if theres any justice then he won't be aloud within a hundred foot of them.

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