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He flirts at me and I flirt back, but I don't understand why his wife would be mad when I'm only in high school!

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Question - (7 September 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 10 September 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

About a year ago I met this cop in my town. Im only 17, and I never used to pay attention to him. Then I noticed he was really really cute, and I started talking to him. I found out he was married, but had only married a few months before then. He started flirting with me, and everytime he would say things a little more bold.

One day, when we were on my myspace, he saw a picture of my knee after surgery and said "o your leg does not look as sexy there!" He also said that we wondered what would happen if he were not a cop. Then one day I got in a car accident, and to my luck he was the cop that came. I didnt want to go to school, so he let me sit in his car and listen to music. He looked at me and asked why I was wearing jeans, and not shorts. When I told him how these 40 year olds were calling me cute, he asked what I would say if he called me cute? I always put little smiley face antenna balls on his cop car to remind him of me. I thought they were little innocent jokes. Then he asked me for Madeleine McCann bracelets I wear everyday and I got him some of those as well.

Lately he has been avoiding me, and im confused why. Then I left him a picture on his car and texted him to go look at his car. He responded he was out of town and to please take it off, it pissed his wife off. I dont understand why his wife is so mad at me when im a high schooler with a crush on her husband, and he is the one who flirts with me. What should I do? tell him how I feel? or just leave him alone?

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A female reader, kim 18 United Kingdom +, writes (10 September 2008):

kim 18 agony auntu shouldnt need to ask y his wife would be mad at u just because ur only in high school dosent mean ur a little gile u should understand by now that a married man is off limits u may have a crush on him but u shouldnt do any thing bout that it is not fair on his wife and its not fair on u. find o non married man hun and enjoy being young ur only 17 once good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008):

You're not innocent - you're 17 years old (practically an adult) and you know exactly what you're doing. You're flirting with a married man. Not only flirting, but also calling, texting, and exchanging pictures with. That is not appropriate behavior to be engaging in with a married man, no matter what your age. That man is low and a moron, but you're certainly not "innocent", so don't try to place all the blame on him.

His wife is angry because her husband is a cheating moron. She's angry with you because you're young, immature, and flirting with her man. Pretty simple stuff here.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (7 September 2008):

She is aware that you are in the innocent party in this. She's pissed off because he's been flirting. He's just passing that blame onto you because he feels guilty.... and also because it's your fault too.

You are not an innocent High Schooler. You are 17, not a little girl. You should understand that married men are off limits.

And you have gone past flirting. You chat to each other, you have each other on myspace, you leave pictures on his car and text him.... you have his phone number!

You cannot say that she shouldn't be pissed off at you.

Leave the guy alone and stop talking to him if you have a crush. He's an idiot - but you should be old enough to know better.

Good Luck!! xx

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