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He feels more like a friend than a boyfriend...

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Question - (30 June 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 July 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have been dating my boyfriend for three years, a long time considering we are both only 18. However When we kiss I start to feel weird and as if the act is wrong, so we stop.

This happens 80% of the time and I don't ever feel like I want to start kissing or for this to progress. I do love him very, very much and don't want this to be the end, but I am just happy cuddling and nothing more. This would perhaps be seen as normal with my age but we did, until about a month ago, enjoy a very healthy sex life.

I realise that because we are so young this may not be forever, as much as I would like it to be, so we are not rushing things. He is very understanding which makes me feel guilty. We are very affectionate towards each other and I am still attracted to him.

We have recently been talking about what we should do or try and we have decided to take a two week break from trying to go further than cuddling. He was willing to do this as the absence may make me miss it, but he is worried that at the end of the two weeks i will leave him preferring to be just friends. I have assured him this won't happen, but does anyone think it is a bad idea or is there something else we could try? Thank you

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A male reader, dan026 United States +, writes (1 July 2009):

dan026 agony auntCould be your sex drive is taking a dip? It's common from time to time. I think that may be it because you seem to still enjoy being with him but not the sexual aspects. Or maybe your love has changed and you simply no longer desire him as a lover. The break you two are taking will be good for you to figure it out, because if you still do not desire physical involvment from him by then, you probably should reconsider the relationship.

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