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He dumped me but I want him back!! What can I do??

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Question - (1 October 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 October 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

My boyfriend of two years recently just broke up with me because he wanted "space" but i have just moved an hour away to uni so surely, he has space from me? Anyway, now he's ended it completely. i dont know what to do i love him so much. I've begged him to change his mind and he said he needs time. im feeling so down i just want him back. what can i do to get him back?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006):

Well, yes, it hurts, and after two years together its understandable that you want him back - that's how you feel at the moment.

Telling a person you need "space" is, unfortunately, a way of breaking up without coming out and saying so directly.

He did then, act more blunt, in ending things completely.

You have asked for a second chance and he's not giving it.

You have done all you could, and there is nothing more you CAN do now.

You've just begun uni, surely there's lots to think about there!! Your studies, first and foremost, but aren't there some neat guys there, and opportunites to socialize and meet others? This is where to focus your attention and energies, now!

Good luck!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006):

Ugh. Its clear to me that you dont even realise the stuff you were doing to crowd him.

One hour away at school is nothing for a girl who feels the need to call, email and IM all days with "I miss you's" and "what are you doing nows". Moping around and begging him to come back- ugh. Its annoying.

Here is a practical plan- once a month send him a package with browies or cookies and a one line note "hi Mike- I am cooking at university now. Thought you'd like to try these out!" Dont put in a any "miss you"s or "love always".

In six months he'll forget all the negative things about you, and the associations will be all positive. And he find himself looking forward to you package.

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A female reader, Toria +, writes (1 October 2006):

Toria agony auntYou can't make someone be with you they have to realise on their own that you are what they want.

I would give him the space he is wanting and see how it goes, if he wants to be with you this time apart will make him realise how much he loves you, misses you and wants to be with you.

Good luck :o)

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