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*izzGuyana
writes:My boyfriend of 1 years is wonderful. He loving, romantic, funny, caring, generous etc. The problem is, I can't see myself with him forever, although he makes me happy. This is because he is 24 years old and still dependednt on his family. He doesn't work and he still lives with them. It seems like he not determined to better his life. What makes matters worse is that his parents boss him around. We never have privacy. We also have different cultures and tradions. Im caribbean, he's african so there is a language barrier. The fact that his familly choose to speak their language, when they can speak english really annoys me. I have told him numerous times that making a good living, buying a house and starting a family are all important steps I want to take someday. He agrees with me but then he still doesnt make an effort to change things. Why am I bored of a good man? It isn't all about him making money either, I just get really hot for other guys and want to date them *briefly* I think I may be ready to be single again but then what if ditch this guy, (my possible future husband who would make a great father and love me indefinately) for someone that may end up hurting me.Should I break up with him?
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reader, MizzGuyana +, writes (2 July 2010):
MizzGuyana is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for you replies.
A special thank you to the second person who replied, I felt like you gave the most honest answer.
I don't boss him around, and I don't want him to choose between me and his family either thats wrong. I just want him to be ambitious. He's even dropped out of uni. He said himself that he's fed up of being bossed around by them but yet he still doesnt make a change. i don't kno if I can put up with it, but I don't want to leave him because he makes me happy.
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reader, ctds001  +, writes (2 July 2010):
Listen if you do not share the same goals in life, then he is not your Mr Right.
It's nice feeling your in a tunnel with no light insight. This is how it feel when you have no hope of creating your dreams because your partner is holding you back.
Get out now, wasting time is not ambitious like you seem to be!
Good luck, let us know what you decide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): eh no, your saying that his parents boss him around by the looks of it you do to i mean this guy has his whole life infront of him just be happy he willing to share it with you. and it great he has good family because when you do have children you can leave them with him so don't try to grow up to quick because if you do then you might miss something speical with the two of you and try and get out of the house a little more if you have no privacy but don't get him to pick between you or his parents because he choose them...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Um darling its because he is going nowhere in his life. Not till he gets off his lazy arse and leave home. You be doing the right thing by leaving.
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