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writes: MY husband says, he does not know ,why he is not interestedto have sex with me.He says, he loves me. I don't feel it. He never looks at me nice,and never makes me feel loved.I tried everything.We have children.. Its a terrible thought, that I might have to leave.. I did everything to save this marriage.But now, I'' m seriously thinking of leaving, after years of not wanting me. They say all marriages go thru on bad stages, but some can't survive. I feel so hopeless on this point, because I'm sure something changed for ever. I need affection from him , maybe there are others who can live with out it.Is there anybody here who had been there? Is it very risky to stay with someone who don't show love, or its risky to leave for that reason? Reply to this Question
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 Just think.. you are dedicating your life and wasting precious time feeling so unhappy. Time goes by. Sooner or later you'll look back and wonder why havent you tried to get to know yourself better and love yourself better and why you have focused only on living through the perspective of this relationship. You have good things in your life, you have love , you have your kids, Wuldn't you be a much more inspiring, better parent if you had a spark of life in you? I would say, don't be afraid to be happy.. Or you could try the safer option. Get some zing from out of the relationship, secretly. See if it makes you feel better. I know it will....
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reader, kittypop0  +, writes (11 November 2008):
hello,
I am sorry to hear from that, i have been going through the same situation for 4 years now. I have tried talkng to him about this situation since, even mentioned divorce because of my unhappiness in ths marriage. Eveyone has their own story and mine has ended up with me moving out. My husband never took what i had to say seiously, and now i think he has the time to think about if this is what he wants. This also gives me the oppritunity to do things for myself and find parts of me that I lost when i married him. I also have been so much happier spending time with my little boy because of him being my only focus. This time is for me and my child. I know the decision is very hard it took me most of my marriage to finally do something about it. I hope things work out for you, it might not look like the most pleasent, but in the future it may be the best. My prayers go to you.
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