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writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. And there's something that's bothering me. He is not jealous at all. He don't care if my ex's text me he don't care if I cheat on him he don't care if guys hit on me or flirt with me in front of him or anything. Is this even normal in a relationship for a guy to be this way? Does it mean that he doesn't love me or that he's unfaithful?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2014): Maybe he doesn't care because you're trustworthy and won't do those things.
Did this by any chance come from of those conversations where you test him? Girls your age seem to think the 'jealousy test' is a good gauge of how a guy feels. It's not.
Jealousy is a shitty, negative emotion and regardless what you hear in songs or in movies it's never a good thing.
I'm not in any way jealous because I have my wife, I'm the only person she wants and I know no one else stands a chance with her. So how can I be jealous? The only person I can be jealous of is me, and well that makes no sense.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (16 May 2014):
 I think you should be less concerned with his behaviour and more concerned with your own. You imply that you CHEAT on him, text your ex, flirt in front of your BF, let guys hit on you? Yet you question his commitment, integrity and love? You need to stop and ask yourself why you need this attention from other men, why you stay in touch with your ex, why you flirt in from of your BF. If you are attempting to make him jealous in an attempt to test him in some way then maybe he seems that a mile of and rises above it?
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reader, MSA +, writes (16 May 2014):
 Did he tell you that he's not the jealous type or have you done all of the above to him and he wasn't jealous?I agree with SoVeryConfused. Jealousy is not love, it's insecurity. Relationships are built on trust. It doesn't matter if your ex is texting you or another guy is flirting with you, what matters is he trusts your responses, he believes in you and your relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 May 2014):
 Jealousy is not about love.. .Jealousy is an emotion that is rooted in insecurity.
ARE you cheating on him or texting with ex partners to get his attention and see if he loves you?
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