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writes: I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months. We get along really well, I've met all his family and friends and he's said that he's never been more sure of anything in his life like he's sure of his relationship with me.One thing though that I can't seem to deal with is that he doesn't call or text me often. We see each other on the weekends and once a week after work. He sometimes calls but lately we've had days without any communication. When I don't hear from him, even a small text, I feel like he doesn't really care.In my past relationships the guys would usually call everyday, or send an email or a random text to say goodnight or good morning or something like that. He doesn't do this at all and it makes me feel like he doesn't think about me while we're apart. I guess I am a little insecure. We once talked about texting and calls and he said that he's not the type to text or call for no reason and that he would feel smothered if people sent random texts to him throughout the day.I don't want to ask him to do all these things more often because that would just be nagging him. I understand that he's got other things to do while he's not with me but it makes me feel like he doesn't care when I don't hear from him. He never sends a random text or email.How do I stop being so insecure? Guys, does my boyfriend not care about me if he doesn't do these things?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): OMG, your situation is just like mine. My boyfriend and I only meet once a week. Everytime we meet, he always takes me to the same theater; it makes me feel so bored. Everyday he calls me once, and we only talk about 10 mins. When I asked that" you don' have anything to share with me?" He said " i already share with you things I want you to know" He always makes me insecure and he doesn't love me. Therefore, I had said goodbyes to him many times. He told me that i was childish- I broke up with him with no reasons. But I"m tired of the way he treats me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): Thanks for putting some sense into me rhythmandblues2. The line "your addiction to non stop attention....just so you can feel loved" is what I needed. Thanks a bunch :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): You asked him why he didn't text or call all the time and he gave you an answer.
Why are you analyzing and trying to find a problem where none probably exists.
Texting in my opinion has gotten out of hand pretty soon human beings will be born only with thumbs.
Technology creates the need. Do you realize just a couple of decades ago the first cell phones were the size of bricks. Texting is a feature of cell phones now that allow the phone companies to make more money rather than you placing actual calls and them having to pay another carrier to use their towers when you are out of range....texting is the lowest form of communication between human beings that exist. And why would he email his girlfriend all of the time, he gets to actually speak to you in person frequently?
If you have been dating him 6 months and you want to speak to him every day, then you can just dial that phone and call him can't' you? If he doesn't like texts all day I would totally respect that and be glad you don't have a guy who is addicted to his phone. Perhaps you need to go into phone rehab to cure your addiction to non stop attention....just so you can feel loved...say it isn't so.
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