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writes:I am a 22 year old guy and I have a problem with one of my guy friends.When he and I hang out, he is is regular self, and we get along fine. But whenever my girlfriend is around, he acts like a show-off and is really rude and mean to me. He always "jokes around" but when my gf is around all the jokes seem to be directed at me. I have a feeling if I tell my girlfriend about this she'll say I'm overreacting. The last time we hung out and she was there he didn't have one good thing to say to me all day and I felt like crap after everyone left. Now I feel really pissed.How can I deal with this problem? My girlfriend thinks this guy is cool and would probably construe my concerns as jealousy or overreacting.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 It's definitely his attempt to make himself look better to her, as well as boost his own ego. Like the other posters have said, talk to him about it, make it clear it pisses you off. If he doesn't change, you need to consider whether or not it's worth keeping him around as a friend.
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reader, jellybeans20009 +, writes (4 July 2010):
Instead of telling your girlfriend, who would not be able to do a single thing to help you anyhow, talk to your guy friend.
Set him aside one of these days and go "look, you act pretty differently when my girlfriend is around..." If he doesn't want to change or whatever then start hanging out with him less and tell him it's because of that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Have you talked to your friend about this? I would ask him what his problem is and get to the bottom of it. Of course your girlfriend wouldn't understand what your saying, only you have seen both sides of your friends personality. Honestly, it sounds like to me might have a thing for your girlfriend. I don't want to rock the boat but that's just what I think. Either way, don't let yourself be treated like that! Tell him that if he is your friend then he needs to act the way a friend should act. Sometimes all that's needed is communication and everything will work out:) I hope this helps you and Good Luck!
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