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writes:Ok, so i've been hanging out with this guy (we're both 22yrs old) and i'm still a "technical" virgin... Ive given a blow job before but only 2x previously, and that was back when i was 18anyways my question is, i only jerked him off, and he came within 10minutes... (is that normal?)then last night, (i'll admit u did look kinda slutty) he was already erect, and i gave him a blow job, and he came within less than 5mins! my mouth or hands didnt even get tired... he said "oh ur lips are so soft, ive never came that fast before, your really good"Is that a good thing, or bad? does that mean that if i have sex with him, is he going to be a "one minute" man? also, im very far from being experienced when it comes to oral, which i told him up front, but he doesnt believe im a technical virgin, and that ive only given a bj two times..so am i doing something good or bad, to make him cum so quickly, or is he just being an average guy??thank you for reading!!! :)~jess
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (25 July 2010):
 Well technically the faster the better from a biological standpoint while ten second man will be with ten diffrent mates and then on to the next while mr all niter is stuck with the first and when the vikings come chop down his door he wont even be done... A fast climax is not a bad thing its nature way of saying your done on to the next... females may want it to last till they get theirs.. but thats what the clitoris is for they really dont need penetration to orgasm..
sex can be alot of work usually for the guy its a good way to have a heart attack ten min is more then enough time to climb Mt Everest while doing pushups and carrying a horse while plowing ... Get in get wet and get out... gotta save some energy for the new starcraft.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): It is all fine. in that age it should take only 2 minutes.
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reader, daletom +, writes (25 July 2010):
Sounds fairly typical. In fact, 5 to 10 minutes is probably longer than most guys his age can manage. It is common for guys in their teens and 20's to climax fairly quickly - often sooner than their partners desire. Believe it or not, many guys are embarrassed or disappointed for climaxing too soon so please don't make a big deal out of this. Many couples have to make some kind of adjustment or compromise - and guys sometimes need to make a conscious decision to learn how to last longer.
It's a "problem" if you let it be one. Many couples will bring the guy to orgasm early in their lovemaking with oral or manual sex. He will "recharge" fairly fast - maybe only 5 or 10 minutes later he'll be ready to go again. In the meantime, they work on getting the lady ready for intercourse. By the time he's ready again, she's also ready and he'll last significantly longer inside her. It also helps many guys last longer if he's on his back.
My wife and I used this technique when we started having sex. (We were both "technical virgins" on our wedding night, at age 23.) The other thing we did to deal with my response being faster than hers was simply having lots of sex.
The very first time is a slightly different situation. If you expect the time will come when you two have sex - I'd say that BOTH of you should have an orgasm just before you try insertion. That will make you as open, relaxed, and lubricated as you'll ever be - and give him a little more control as he enters you. (It's often suggested that you should be on top, so you can feel the best positioning, angle, rate, etc. Many women are too self conscious to do that.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): He sounds normal to me! Having sex the first time, he might finish quickly, but if you do it more than once, it'll take him longer.
It sounds like he's really attracted to you!
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