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writes:DearCupid,My ex-boyfriend and I of 2 years split up in January. He cheated on me... with my best friend. I was completely heartbroken, it really destroyed me, he never even apologised or anything i had my suspisions before but he just said i was being 'paranoid'and told me he loved me all the while he was flirting with my "best friend" - once him and i had split he stopped talking to her but was still always wanting to talk to me.we were talking the other day, and he told me he still loved me and i said it back. i do still have feelings for him, but im not sure i love him as much anymore and if i should really just let him back into my life as easily as that, he dosent know what i went through when i found out about them. do you think its a bad idea to have him back? any advice appreciated!xx
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 yes you do hun! I'm proud of you
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :D yeah its such horrible thing to go through. I've just about moved on and im finished with both of them, i know i deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): Heya! I've recently had the exact same thing happen to me. With my now exboyfriend and my best friend.
Neither of them have any morals and will do whatever without a care as to what happens to you.
You might love both of them but please, just dont get back with them, don't even speak to them.. they don't deserve you.
In a few months you will be so glad you left both of them :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): You are right to not forgive him or her for what they have done to you. It must have really hurt when you found out that they were having a relationship behind your back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i'm still friends with her, we dont talk as much anymore though. i think i'm just going to have a talk to him and tell him it's not going to work, we should just stay friends maybe, im not sure yet. i do still really love him but if he cant treat me right then he's not worth my time.
Thank you everybody for the advice it has really really helped alot. put things into perspective. Now i've just got to decide on how im going to handle this with him from now on, friends or whatever.
Thank you!
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reader, livi +, writes (24 March 2007):
 hey,
you poor thing that must of been horrible.
Are you still mates with the girl who cheated with your bf? Who's to say it wouldnt happen again if you got back toegther? but then again, people make mistakes, its a difficult problem. i dont think you should get involved, you could get hurt again.
Why not try being really close mates? Sometimes thats ten times better then being in a relationship.
Good luk : D
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reader, Irish49 + ♥, writes (24 March 2007):
 Are you nuts! Why would you go back to a guy who did such a disrespectful act of betrayal to you. And with your best friend..wow! Frankly, he's a loser but what is so skewed with your way of thinking that you would want to even consider taking him back? Most self-respecting girls with any balls...would consider him a huge liability to any love relationship. They'd kick his ass to the curb. So quit with the "he treated me like crap but I love him' thing you have going on there and start using your head. Tell him to hit the road. You can do waaayyy better. Believe in that and for goodness sakes...believe in yourself, build up your self-love and believe in your right to have a functional, healthy, loving relationship with a guy who adores you, loves you and will treat you like a queen!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): I understand what you're going through. I've been through almost the same thing. My ex, whom I had then been with for 2 yrs, cheated on me with my best friend. When I eventually found out, I ended it..this sort of betrayal, kind of like a double betrayal is the worst. He wasn't talking to her anymore, but he begged and pleaded for me to take him back...I did. But in a couple of months, he was doing it again, with some other girl, and I felt like giving him another chance was so not worth it! Bottomline: Don't do it. If he could do it with your best friend, who knows who else he might be tempted by. As you say, he was not even apologetic about it and does not understand what he put you through. I'm sure you can find someone who will treat you with more love and respect than that. You deserve it.
Take care...xx
Kary
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reader, dollparts +, writes (24 March 2007):
NO!!!!! are you kiding me??!?!? he cheated on you with your best friend think about that for a minute! of corse its a horrible idea!!! hunny you can do a lot better you can find some one who will aprecate you! you young more on you will find some one worth wile! he doesnt deserve you
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