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writes:So, i'm almost seventeen, and i sort of like this guy from church. the problem is, he's three years younger. is this completely inappropriate? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): (smile) Good answer, HopelessRomantic2010. And my present sig/other is four years older and we are "very" compatible...in all ways. After a certain age, it matters not one whit.....
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reader, HopelessRomantic2010 +, writes (19 January 2009):
Hii...
Okayy...for starters, if a guy doesn't have his "big boy hair" (as it has ever-so-charmingly been referred to) at 14, he must be a REALLY late bloomer. All of my guy friends were getting theirs back in, like, sixth grade. Buuut then again, I don't claim to be an expert on the male species...lol. Anyways...on with the actual question.
Woww...this sounds a lot like me. I was in this exact same situation. I met A.J. in August at youth group, and by October, we were dating. Sure, I stressed over what everybody else was going to think and the whole little "we won't be able to understand each other because of the age difference" thing. But apparently, it's possible for a guy to be thirteen and really, really, REALLY mature. A.J. and I have been together for three months now, and we couldn't be happier (we're actually talking as I'm typing this...lol).
Sure, people are going to talk. They're going to laugh at you and maybe even say some hurtful things. You've just got to ask yourself if you think this guy is really worth it. And if he is, then just ignore what everybody else says. It's not typical, but then again, it's not a crime, either. As it has been stated before, you can't help who you fall in love with.
The bottom line: Age is just a number, and love doesn't care how old you are.
Good luck!
~SarSar~
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Dr. Vendetta, are you being honest? Are you really a male? (smile). I had my "big boy hair" at eleven, and was shaving at fourteen. I was also about 5'10" and could kick most other guys arses who were older than me. I only grew a few inches in hight after fourteen, though I put on more muscle. Most all of my girl friends were older than me. I did not have a license to drive a car, but I had a motorbike, which they liked even better. I also had guy friends who were older and we would double date. Sometimes, the girls would drive their own cars. I may have been an "early bloomer", but I was not really that unusual in my area, mostly Scandinavian, German, and Scotch-Irish. It was farming/ranching country and we all grew up pretty fast. Maybe genetics plus healthy living...(lol).
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Ha! theskieswerefilled, most girls like "older guys" because the older guys usually have a driver's license and more money to spend. Most teenage girls would not know "maturity" from shinola..or care. My first "serious" girlfriend was eighteen, and I was sixteen. So, it is not so much the age difference as what other people perceive or think. It is "social" norms, not the people themselves. So, it can be a problem because of that. At any rate, I think friendship is fine at any age, but I would not consider a romantic involvement, even if it were the reverse and he were the older one. Oh, btw, theskies..."balls" normally drop before birth...and boys are sexually mature and able to father children at around twelve, whereas most girls are not even ovulating until about fourteen.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 "i'm almost seventeen, and i sort of like this guy from church*. the problem is, he's three years younger*."
note Church, 3 years younger.
at the age of 14 i doubt his big boy hair has come in yet. to be perfectly honest what would you have in commen? unles you're suggesting you're as mature as a 14 year old.
and yes i believe that somewhere along the line its probably frowned upon.
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 Dear,
In a relationship understanding is the basic need. If you think that guy is understanding and also comfortable for you then you may…
But he is only 14 so maybe it will hard for him to understand you 17 years mind.
So better keep it as a friendship and try to understand how he will for you…
But in love or sex or dating age is not a big problem…because difference is not more then 8yr….
So best of luck
Take care,
arianz
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reader, sheribaby38 +, writes (16 January 2009):
 i would think a 14 year old boy would be too imature for a 17 year old girl.i was always told that girls mature faster then boys. its okay to like this kid though. maybe hes mature for his age.theres no harm in liking someone younger then you unless its like a 26 year old with a 14 year old then it is very inappropriate. have fun at church!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): hey im 14 and my gf is 17 and we dnt have a problem
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