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writes:A couple of weeks ago I met up with a guy I've been online friends with since last summer. I've had feelings for him for some time. We had a great day, typical date- cinema, meal, then to finish we went on a walk and got to know each other some more (a lot more- he told me all about his family etc). It felt like we had a real connection, and he mentioned how it just felt "right" being with me. He gave me the impression he wanted me as a girlfriend up until I was about to leave, he called me his "casual friend". I was so confused by this I didn't know what to say, I just smiled awkwardly and he kissed me goodbye. I have real feelings for this guy, but I have no intentions of being something casual for him on the side. How can I approach the subject casually as not to seem demanding or clingy?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (15 February 2010):
 I'm in agreement with CaringGuy.
You said you have no intention of being "something casual for him on the side" but I don't see any prospect of it right now.
Remember, this was your first meeting in person. And it does take time to get to know someone by going out together, and talking, sharing enjoyable activities. Whereas talking online or even on the phone, just doesn't cut it - even though you can gain some superficial knowledge........no need to rush, or talk to him about what he might have meant. My recommendation is that you chill out and seen how it goes on your next few dates. Take it slow, and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 February 2010):
Continue to get to know him. Remember that talking online and meeting in person are totally different things. You need to take it slow and continue to meet him in person, then perhaps things will develop.
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