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writes:I'm gay and I just had sex with a guy who broke my heart 2 years ago. I used to like this guy a lot after he confessed to me that he's gay. We were friends at first but I did cross the line asking him out but he said he's not looking for dating anyone at the moment. After that everything was getting awkward between us. We were not that close anymore. Until he had gone for while. I made up my mind and almost able to give up on him. Then he's back and I tried so hard to be like what we used to be, a friend. But one day he came up to me and told me that he was sorry that he couldn't give me what I want, then he said he likes me a lot but he doesn't want to hurt me. He got me confused again. Things got intense at the party. He was drunk and kissed me in a toilet. I told him to stop 'cause he looks so confused for what he was doing. He ran away and came back for exact 5 seconds and pushed me into a toilet room. Now you can guess what happened. I mean I would not surrender to him if he didn't say that he likes me a lot. I tried to make him stop but he kept telling to shut up LOL When we were making out I saw someone was watching us. creepy! I dragged him out of the club and got into the taxi to send him home but yeah we continued at his house. I left in the morning before he was going to wake up. The next day I got a message from him said that he was so sorry cause he was so drunk and he wanted to know if I'm cool with this. I mean How am I supposed to say? He got me back to the same spot like last 2 years. We haven't talked about this face to face yet. It's been 2 weeks now after the incident. When I met him he always looks a little bit uncomfortable. And if he's drunk he always asks the same question like Are We Cool? Are We Friend? I didn't want to push him away so I had to say yes we're cool, yes we're friend even though I have to accept that I like him a lot. Please I need your advices! Should I talk to him, avoid him or keep it this way or prove to him that I really like him? (but he did mention that nothing going to happen and he doesn't want to give me a false hope).... T T
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (24 March 2010):
Hmmm... sounds interesting. Sounds like HE just wants to be friends, but when he gets drunk... he wants sex. You on the other hand, sound like you want more than friends and that sex is an added bonus. So, you need to decide if you can live with the kind of relationship that he wants - since it's highly unlikely that he's going to change his attitude. Either that... or you just need to walk away.
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reader, uncutdan +, writes (23 March 2010):
 Hey Buddy,
Sounds like he is very unsure of what he wants. He's right if he does something with you you'll get that false hope that he's talking about. Good for you to not try anything with him. Find the right guy for yourself. Right now its not him. Down the road when he's more stable and secure, maybe it'll work.
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