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writes:I'm so confused right now! I know this guy, who I have liked for aaaages and we talk loads etc etc. But last night over the internet he accidentally gave me the link to his internet blog before quickly correcting himself and giving me the one to the thing he was trying to show me. I'm not sure if he's realised I read it or not...but anyway, here's some of what it said a few months ago:"I really like this girl i know called Emma. i dont' know why i just call her "this girl", she's much more than that. I dunnah man, i've known her for like, nearly a year now, and it just clicked. Like...we banterrr sometimes but like...you can still feel the kinda..link..between us, all the time. I like that. She lives near me, it wouldn't take us ages to hook up, i reckon it could work, i dunnah what she thinks..i like..i tell her i like her a lot, because i've given up on keepin' stuff in, and like, she says she likes me too, i think, ahh i dunnah man."the next few entries he kept saying how much he liked me etc and how happy he was around me, but then the last entry which was a few days ago said:"I'm not sure if i have a love-life. When i say that, i mean an interest in a love-life. When i'm with emma of course i wish we could live near eachother because i know it would work. But, the fact of the matter is, we don't."he lives in london, i live in oxford, which is like an hour or two away, and like, i'm confused over what he wants, i have been almost obsessed with him for months now, and just what do i do?! really would appreciate some advice [:
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Darling that wasnt an accident he sent that link to you on purpose to see what you would do, you like him he likes you your only what 2 hours away it could work and i think he wants it to tell him you read his blog and ask what he wants to do now, if it doesnt wqork it doesnt work but at least take the chance
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reader, LouLee +, writes (28 December 2007):
 I agree, i dont think it was accidental. i expect that he just wants to show you how much u mean to him and the fact he's said he's not sure if he has an interest in a love life is just blatently asking you to change his mind...tell him what you feel and you won't be disappointed.
LouLee
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reader, Somethingeasy  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 The young are so Niave. It could work, you just have to persue it a little harder
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 I totally agree with Dr Phil.
I don't think this guy gave you his blog address by mistake.
He is probably just afraid to tell you face to face exactly how he feels, and it was just easier to drop a hint for you to go explore.
Also agree that he probably did this in order to see if you feel the same, and if you could help him overcome the physical obstacles (like the distance you stay from each other), or at least if you'd be willing to give this a go.
TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM BACK, tell him that you understand his worries, and that you feel the same, and then tell him that you're willing to work at it.
Good luck...
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (28 December 2007):
 I doubt that he 'accidentally' gave you the link to his blog. I reckon he's dipping his toes in the water to see how you'd respond or react to his entries. All credit to you for being able to decipher it though!
You can only gain by telling him how you feel about him. To my mind he's hoping for a positive reaction.
Go for it!
Phil
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reader, dc.ryan +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Hello,
Well you both have feelings for each, whether he knows it or not now - which is fantastic, and you should be happy about it.
Through what hes written in his blogs he sounds very intersted, but is not sure on how you would react to his feelings - and hes clearly admitted hes willing to travel the distance to see you.
What you got to ask your self is, can he or you get to each other easily - as its important to build your relationship through physical contact (although it does make it very very special when you only get to see each other a couple of times a week - you enjoy it more).
I wouldn't be too confused about his feelings, because its obvious that he feels a *real* connection to you, and is very interested in going above friendship - but now the though question; friendship or relationship?
From the sounds of things you seem to have a very sturdy, srong friendship - you sound very close, and probably hes the first person you turn to when you got problems. Thing is, if you rush into a relationship - things can go down hill very quickly, as you don't quite understand whats going on and what you want from each other; and then you've potentially lost a very close friend.
How ever, going off by what you've explained and what hes explained I think it would be very worth it if you talked to him about your feelings and get him to open up with his feelings and see what happens - come to a conclusion on what you want to do with your live(s), make him understand that your friendship with him is very important to you and you wouldn't want to loose that value - at the same time, let him voice his feelings and opinions to you and come to a conclusion *together*.
Ryan
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