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*ran2008
writes:A couple days ago my boyfriend of six months broke up with me. We have been having a lot of problems due to having to live in my mother's house together because his parents kicked him out and he had no where else to go. This ended up ruining what we had before the move. Now he is confused, and unsure of what he wants because during this time I became very attatched and jealous when he would hang out with his friends because they tend to do things like party and go to strip clubs and that makes me uncomfortable. He doesn't know if he wants that life or a life with me. He has left it very open ended, and now I'm confused and having trouble with the break-up. I still want him, and I'm willing to give him the freedom he deserved in the first place, but I don't know how to deal with all of this, and realize it may end up being him not wanting me. If anyone has any advice on how to deal with this, I would really appreciate it. Thanks.
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reader, fran2008 +, writes (25 December 2010):
fran2008 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both very much for your answers. Both are very helpful for me
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reader, petina1  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 You are in a very short relationship before he moved in with you due to those circumstances when he had no where to go. People need time to get to know each other before they move in and doing it that way so quickly you didnt really know each other youve had to learn fast. I'ts not what he really wants, he wants his freedom and his friends and not to be tied down, which by moving in with you that did tie him down. I would give him his space, his freedom, he knows you are there. You are both young and he probably wants to do what his mates are doing. See if he comes back to you, if he doesnt then let him be.
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reader, blieu38 +, writes (24 December 2010):
i can relate to your situation in a way. a few years ago i had a girlfriend ( about 10 months we was together ) who i lived with in her flat for a while we ended up loseing the flat due to problems with the landlord, we then decided to move in to my mums ( what a bad idea that was ) belive me !!!!! this ended up ruining what we had as well as my mum didnt get on with her from the start. after a while at mums( tense to say the least ) i got a new job which included my own work`s accomodation but only for me so my girlfriend had to stay there on her own with mum while i earned some money for our own place ( that did not work )i thought it would be ok ( i was wrong ) as the job was only temp for about 4-6 weeks after about a week mum kicked her out on the streets with out any of her belonging`s i had a fall out with mum over it didnt talk to mum for about 2 month`s managed to get my girlfriend`s stuff back and keep my girlfriend but it wasn`t the same we argued all the time about it she blamed me for leaving her there she blamed me for taking her there she blamed me for just about the whole situation !!!!! i ended that relationship but not a day goes by that i dont think about what could have been if mum had not kicked her out !!!!! i still dont talk to mum as much as i did even now after 20 years !!!!! i dont know what to tell you as your still young but i know that if i could turn back time i would not have moved her in to mums but thats in the past and i cant change that, if you get back together then it was ment to be if not your young you have the whole life ahead, you will find someone else i promise you that, the thoughts will never go away no matter what happens in your life, but you will learn to cope with it eventually i did, in the end you have to other wise it will eat away at you and who knows what will happen then ?????
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