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writes: I am having new anxiety that I've never experienced. Any and all thoughts are appreciated. I am a 32 year old man, with a nice 7 inch penis. Recently, I've been feeling anxiety (chest tightness, heart palpitations) about my girlfriend wanting or needing a huge (9+) penis to please her.Do women fantasize about being with men of huge size? Do they prefer huge to average?Thanks for your advice. Reply to this Question |
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (10 March 2006):
 What they said!
...and my own comment that big is fun to look at, but it's no guarantee of pleasure.
My ex-husband was (ahem!) like a horse, but he was a total loss in the sack. He figured that having a big one made him a top lover.
If your girlfriend is hinting that she'd like to try something bigger -- just for fun -- have a look into some adult toy websites. A few vibrators or dildos can expand widthwise as well as being long, and would certainly be enough larger than your better-than-average penis to meet her needs.
If you're still having physical reactions after reading these responses, I'd suggest you might need to get a check-up. It's just not natural to worry yourself into a state of panic over such a trival thing.
A penis is only as good as the man behind it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006): I dont know what I can say without getting my post disapproved my the moderators! but on a subject like this I think they will need to relax the rules a little. I am a firm (!) beliver in quality over quantity! I can speak from experience that big ones are not always as good as 'above' average sized members. i was dating a guy who had such a wide penis I once felt violated! I had to get in the bath with antiseptic because I felt SO sore i was scared and felt very very un sexy. Not an erotic experience at all. I felt like I didnt want sex for a long time with him. Yes I will agree that some women crave huge penis's but i think it more a frame of mind than a feeling, in my very personal opinion theres something very destructive about wanting something that hurts!I have also slept with a guy who penis was the size of my thumb which is very petite and he made feel so sexy and me come more than the other guy. Longing can be a powerful thing for a woman, Youv heard is 'Less is more' !I really believe in a good decent fit; not too small, not too big is the best. This way you can be vigorous if the occiason demands, or you can be gentle and tender, which is what long lasting relationships need - variety! If you are huge your may always hurt and if too small you may never suffice (or will have to make alot more effort in other ways!)Think of it this way - why is the avergage man 6/7 inches? Evolution has made them you way! So when you get nervous just give your girl extra foreplay and she wont notice the difference anyway! You men dont realise that for women its the whole fun thing not just the penis size, something I have to remind my also 'average' (but extremely functional sized partner)just get on in there and enjoy the whole thing not just the penetration. Can I also recommend you dip into some of the Karma Sutra which deals with different sizes, and for you and your ladies pleasure try reading stuff like 'Women On Top - Nancy Friday' or 'Delta of Venus -Anais Nin' to deepen your experience, its really really not all about size. Have lots of love and fun x
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (10 March 2006):
 I wouldn't worry about size. The whole size debate is way overrated. Men need not be so insecure about it.
What triggered this anxiety? Did your girlfriend say something to you? Did an ex make a nasty comment that has come up to bite you? Are you worried your girlfriend is cheating?
Find out what triggered the attack and that will help you combat it. I would recommend talking to your GP as well, those sorts of symptons are not good and your GP will be able to help you out there in terms of managing anxiety attacks. A lot of people have them and can manage them effectively with some breathing techniques etc.
Good luck and take care of yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006): Nah - 7 inches is plenty - it's bigger than most.maybe your just having anxiety attacks u might consider seeing your doc
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