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writes:started online dating to see what was out there, decided on two men I liked the profiles, have spoken to both on phone,(they only have my mobile number), they seem ok, one chap I am meeting locally (but not too near)in a pub for lunch, the other lives quite a distance away but is willing to travel to meet, (one and a half hours drive each way)why do I feel uncomfortable? I know the rules...I had a dream that I was in a compromising situation with two men but I got away, do you think the dream is a warning? or is it just me I have never tried dating like this before I am 58yrs old, (I have two failed marriages my last hubby never complemented me at all so I guess my confidence has gone a little down hill) please advise
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): Well of course you are feeling a little unsure. This online dating is kinda new stuff.But really when you think about it you have no more reason to trust most of the men you meet through more conventional means. Just have a safe place to meet, do not give out your address too soon. Go with your intutition.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): Heartxbrokengurl: What wouldn't you do? Meet either of these two men in a public place?
What is the harm in that, so long as she arrives at the restaurant on her own, goes nowhere in their car(s) and goes home on her own. Of course, she will let a close friend know where she will be, beforehand......
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reader, heartxbrokenxgurl  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 i wouldnt do that cuz alot of ppl lie bout there age n then u guys meet n its very dangerous so just dont do it
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reader, Lilly223 +, writes (16 January 2007):
 I think you are feeling anxious because you haven't met in person. Honestly, I've done the online dating thing, and I have never had a negative experience. No, not all of the guys I met were wonderful OR the one for me, but I never had a bad experience. Of course you should be careful. Tell a close friend what you are doing and where you are going when you met an online date. Meet only in a very public place. Do not allow him to drive you anywhere ...if you wish to move the date (say from a coffee house to a restaurant) drive there in your own vehicle, talk on the phone alot before you actually meet, be sure you feel comfortable with your phone conversations... they will tell you a lot. Trust your instinct when it comes to selecting who you will meet, when you will meet them, and where. If you are very nervous, bring a friend with you... if a guy really wants to meet you and has good intentions, he won't care if you bring a friend, but tell him before hand of your intentions. Most of all, be your self, represent yourself as you truly are, don't settle for one that isn't right for you, but give him a few tries if you aren't sure. You will find him... just keep looking. Hope this helps.
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