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writes:hi guys im hoping you can offer me some advice.i am 21 years old and havent had a date since i was 18. iv been pretty busy with college.but not just that i find it really hard to approach guys and not sure how to be flirty etc.for example if i saw a cute guy at a bar or club or even at college who was looking my way, i just dont have the confidence to know where to go from there.any tips for me? thank you xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the tips guys! really appreciate them!
i will take your advice on board and try be more confident.
thanks again!
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reader, GoodDog +, writes (1 August 2011):
 I would say if you see someone you like, just be your natural self when you approach them and make some form of small talk at first. If it's at a concert then make some comment about the band / music, etc or if it's someone in college ask him what he's studying, what's the course like, etc?
Doing it this way shows that you are interested without having to be flirty or overpowering and also you share something in common.
You'll probably find that he will be flattered to have a lady come up to him and show some interest so the rest should fall into place!
Good luck!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Men do still accept that they are normally the ones to approach the girl so you dont have to worry too much about approaching the guy first - most men will be happy to approach you (even if they are nervous on the inside!).
If you catch a guy looking at you say in a bar, then all you need to do is hold eye contact with him. So when he looks, dont be afraid to look at him too and make eye contact. After a few seconds, look away. Wait a minute or two, then look again - hopefully he will still be looking so it means he is interested. Repeat the process, holding his eye contact again and maybe this time smile at him. A smile is normally all a guy needs to approach a girl - it is the universal sign for "I'm happy for you to come and talk to me".
If you see cute guys that you are attracted to then try and find a way of talking to them. Like if you are in a bar and the bartender is cute, stick around and chat to him (if he isnt too busy). Simple things like asking him what are their best cocktails, or what wine does he recommend etc are easy ways to start a conversation.
If it is at college, then there are plenty of things you can talk about - the subject you are taking, where you are living, if its a sports club you are both in talk about your love of that sport.....you will share enough in common just by being in the same college to start up a conversation, so pick something to talk about and give it a try.
But the simplest way to meet guys and get a date is the good old eye contact game - if you catch a guy looking at you a few times, then do the same with him - hold his eye contact, look away, repeat process, throw a smile in there at some point and you have given him the 'come on' that he needs to approach you. If he doesnt approach - forget it and move on to the next guy. There will be times when you read it wrong, thinking a guy is looking at you when he might not be or he might not actually be interested in you in that way, so he wont come over - but laws of averages state that if you keep on making eye contact with plenty of guys eventually one of them will come over to you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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