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female
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30-35,
*iamonddoll
writes:iam not a shallow person in any way but have you ever felt drawn to someone you wouldnt usually find attractive? there not usually your type but something about them makes you feel all warm and happy? my friends cant believe im going on a date with a certain guy but im willing to give him a try as theres something that i just cant put my finger on that i like about him. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 November 2014):
 It happens all the time. Not all the qualities we look for in a man are on the surface anyway, so this guy might very well be what you usually go for, just in a different wrapping.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2014): Someone please clone a million replicas of this young woman!
I can say yes, I've met someone I wouldn't normally find attractive; and felt a certain magnetism that drew me to them. Others may not have seen what it was that I saw in that person, and may have even thought I must have been desperate to consider someone who looked like that.
What you and I are attracted to, is the person within. You have transcended beyond the superficial; and you've matured to the level where you can take interest in, and actually feel attracted to, someone for who they are. Not only how the guy looks, or how he compares to an imaginary standard. Nor how he measures-up to some unworldly criteria created by the media, or entertainment industry.
This is how real chemistry begins.
Dating him may not necessarily translate into that person becoming your one and only; but you've learned that there are more qualities to a good man than good-looks.
I hope he has character and outstanding qualities that make it worth your time. You're not dating for your friends. Most people are frustrated; because they go from one hottie to the next, and complain about how screwed up they are.
They're more interested in arm-candy, or a human-trophy to be the envy of their peers.
Don't limit yourself to "types." You'll wall yourself in and miss out on someone perfectly right for you. There's more to people than what meets the eye. That's how true love is found.
Good luck!
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