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writes:I'm 17, female and living in the UK. I know is sounds really lame, but I have never had a boyfriend and I've never kissed a boy either, (apart from playing kiss chase when I was about 8, which obviously doesn't count). Is there something wrong with me? Without sounding too vain, I don't exactly think I'm ugly, but I could do with loosing a stone or two. Could this be the reason? Also, a few of my friends are already having sex with their boyfriends, so that makes me feel even more 'behind'. I feel like there is so much pressure within my peer group these days to 'do stuff' with people. Not that I'm ready or want to do that kinda stuff yet, but I am getting more and more depressed as the years go by as I still find myself single and totally inexperienced. I think my confidence may play a part in it, as I've never really been confident or totally comftable around guys like some girls are, but recently my confidence has begun to grow since I started working at store on Saturdays, where I'm constantly interacting with different customers. There's also a guy who works there who I find very attractive, but we've never really spoken much. If anyone could give me some advice on how to get to know him better without seeming weird, that would be great. I'd just like to add, (I know this is already a long post so I'll make it short) but this guy is 20 and I'm 17 - is that too much of an age gap? I'm worried if I did date him my parents going cuckoo, but I've never had a boyfriend before so I'm clueless to how they'd react, haha! Any advice would be great! :)
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reader, Gabby93 +, writes (1 January 2011):
Gabby93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the helpful feedback guys - much appreciated!! I shall take your advice on board and try it out.. and with any luck it will work! And yeah, I agree that my confidence is the main thing holding me back from dating, so I'm gonna try and work on that. Thanks a lot once again :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): everybody is different hunny.i lost my virginity at 17 where as i know somebody who still hasnt at 22 and it is nothing to b ashamed of! If u feel u need to lose weight then do it for yourself and to feel healthy. If it helps im a size 14-16 and in a stable relationship. Size isnt everything!
The fact that you have a job in a store will do wonders for ur confidence which is wat i think your main problem is. Geturself out to meet as many different people as possible girls and guys. Have fun makin friends and u neva no 1 day it may lead u to meetin someone special!
As for this guy u work with just say hi! Ask how his new year was and what he did. And no 17 and 20 is not a bad age gap its 3 years iv heard of much bigger.
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reader, Molly0102  +, writes (1 January 2011):
There's nothing wrong with being single at 17. You are still young so don't get into a relationship for the sake of getting into one. Many of my friends are single and they enjoy their singlehood. Since there's a guy you want to know better, you can start by saying hi to him, before work starts, or something, and try having meals with him from time to time. Hope this helps!
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reader, Secretlife  +, writes (1 January 2011):
There's nothing wrong with you. you just haven't found the right guy who's right for you. There's nothing wrong with that. Don't be depressed, you will find that special person. Don't be a follower, be a leader. you should try to get to know that guy, to see if he's really right for you.
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