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Have I put him off by staring?

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Question - (23 June 2017) 3 Answers - (Newest, 24 June 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

There's this guy I had a feeling liked me or was attracted to me at least, I catch him looking and staring at me loads, always made an effort to speak to me in a group, got nervous sometimes and was always offering to help me or give me rides home.

Anyway the last few times I have seen him I get the feeling he's avoiding me. At a friends birthday we kept catching each other's eye and one time when I looked up at him he was already looking at me dead in the eye and we just looked at each other for like 5 seconds with complete straight faces but then he sort of squinted his eyes and moved his gaze to looking behind me. Not long after he went and sat inside for an hour and then went home (I was in the toilet when he went so didn't say bye, I think he might of done that purposefully).

And now the last couple of times I have been at this mutual friends house he has stayed and sat inside the whole time apart from maybe he came out for like 3 minutes then went back in. It really feels like he's avoiding me but then I also caught him looking at me through the window.

Does it sound like he's just a bit shy or have I freaked him out by keeping eye contact with him so this is his way of rejecting me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2017):

Staring at someone is creepy. My parents always used to say "it's rude to stare".

You gave him a taste of his own medicine and he couldn't stare at you anymore. This has happened alot to me before and it is creepy and when I've stared back they get nervous and fidgety because it is "rude to stare". One guy at school would stare at me all throughout a lesson at school. Finally I got with him and he was creepy, he made me do things a 14 year old shouldnt see or do. So just be careful with this dude who's staring at you.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (23 June 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntPerhaps he is hoping you will come inside, away from the crowd, and talk to him? Why don't you go in after him next time and just ask casually "Are you ok?" Perhaps he suffers from hay fever and finds being indoors easier? You will never know if you don't ask.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2017):

maybe he already has a girlfriend but is interested in you but loves her and doesnt want to lead you on. best thing to do is just be a friend, nothing more. do not show any interest.

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