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Have I been given the silent break up?

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Question - (4 February 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 4 February 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *pendy writes:

i was seeing this guy for 3months and we got into an argument and he accused me of cheating when i haven't.. i guess he wanted to break up.. and since then ive not heard from him so i guess this is his way of breaking up with me..any advice please.. still don't know where i went wrong..thought everything was perfect..i really cared for him and i thought he felt the same way but i was wrong. its been 6 weeks and i still don't understand what happened.. p.s ive never tried contacting him at all..!! mature answers please... thanks...xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009):

My last boyfriend left me without an explanation also - only it was after 1 1/2 years! 4 months ago he just stopped talking to me. I tried to get in touch with him for 2 weeks then gave up, and have never heard another word from him.

Breaking up with someone in this manner is cruel and selfish. These guys are only thinking of themselves and really don't deserve our tears, though believe me I've cried my share of them.

I'm sorry you are going through this, but when you're feeling sad about it just keep in mind his cowardice and selfishness in leaving you this way and be glad things didn't go any farther with him. He doesn't know how to confront and resolve issues in an adult fashion, and this would have eventually caused some other problems between you if you had stayed together. You'll find someone else much better for you than he was.

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A male reader, Dazzerg United Kingdom +, writes (4 February 2009):

Dazzerg agony auntIn short dont blame yourself. There is something else afoot here and he used the totally spurious allegation of cheating as a get-out clause. If he really cannot be bothered to give you a proper explanation then I hasten to add he is not worth the heartache and pain.

If it was down to running-scared then I would have expected some further explanation and contact. It's not fair to leave you hanging like this.

I know it's hard because you really cared for this guy but there you have it. Please move on; I am sure there is somebody out there for you :)x

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