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Guys....does it matter if girls have arm hair??

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Question - (9 February 2008) 48 Answers - (Newest, 11 February 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

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Welll i know this question sounds pretty weird but do guys care if girls have arm hair or not? I know some girls that shave their arm hair and i just wanted to know if it even matters...i've never done anything to remove my arm hair but sometimes i do feel self conscious even though i dont have a lot. So....do guys care if u have arm hair or dont?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2012):

seriously? unless you are a freak, no, arm hair, especially dark / thick arm hair even worse, is nasty on a woman, it is really frightening. WAX IT, SHAVE IT, NAIR IT, VEET IT, whatever you need to do, it matters alot. Anyone telling you different is being nice and lying or are among a very small minority who like it. I would be seriously embarrassed to be seen with a woman with hairy hairy man arms or legs for that matter, it's no different!! why would it be? yech.

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A female reader, Anonymoussweertheart United States +, writes (11 February 2012):

Anonymoussweertheart agony auntIm a girl and have been shaving my arm hair since middle school. I felt self concience about shaving my arms because no one else did but I absolutly hated arm hair (even though it was blonde so it wasnt that bad) once my boyfriend felt my arms and said he really liked shavin arms. He said they are smooth and feels really good so im glad I do. But its ur own choice. Just know u cant stop once youve started. But I dont think guys care that much any ways.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010):

when girls have the kind of clear-ish arm hair that is actually really sexy, if its dark black shave it!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010):

Personally, I love hair on women. It is totally natural, those who think it is disgusting do not know what a real woman is. It is fine, don't shave it!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010):

Hair is more of a masculine thing, so when guys see girls with noticeable arm hair, they think of her as being more masculine. As a result, most straight guys get turned off by it (sorry but it's the truth!).

Although there are a few odd guys who are really into it...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010):

I think it does matter to the majority of them because boys like girls with silky soft skin this is one thing that turns them on when they hug u and u smell so pretty and soft it will drive them crazy one thing they find beautiful is 2 see a girl with a skin like an angel. Boys love to touch my skin rub their hands against my arm the boys I no say that I have the sofest skin they no they never noticed my arms with hair till no

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010):

I find women that are naturally a bit "hairy" very attractive! I actually look for that quality when I'm out people watching -the way that some guys like big boobs, long head hair etc. I don't think that there is anything masculine about a grown woman that doesn't feel the need to conform and attempt to look like a pre -teen.

If any of you ladies on here care to chat with a good looking guy that finds your hair attractive, e -mail [email address blocked]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010):

I am a woman 28 years old and am often called very very beautiful. I had dark arm hair and because of that I always wore long sleeves. I recently began waxing my arms and now I feel much better because I can wear short, sleeveless, and even sundresses. Of couse there is nothing wrong about a woman with arm hair. But really, really hairy arms are not exactly for sleeveless with bare shoulders. I suggest, ladies to consider doing what i did.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010):

I didn't know that they even noticed, much less cared until a few weeks ago... It was then that my boyfriend mentioned that before meeting me he was very much against girls with arm hair. He Followed that up by saying that now he doesn't care at all and told me not to change anything, because he loves me just the way I am. So yes, they do have an opinion, but if a guy doesn't want to date you just because of arm hair, he's probably not the one for you anyway.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010):

i have arm hair too and it does make me feel less confident of myself. but i think if someone really loves you,they would love u for who u are and not for anything else.thats what really matters right...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010):

:/ Well, I like girls that have arm hair, it's kinda feminine. ( I know, 'hair' != feminine, but it's just so soft.)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010):

Girls with hairy arms are so un-atractive please shave them IT IS NOT SEXY, BEAUTIFUL, OR A TURN ON. I know it gets stubly and prickly witch is bad but if you keep up with it then it looks good.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010):

I shave my leg/armpit/pubic hair but I don't bother with my arm hair. It'd just be creepy to see stubs there.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010):

I have arm hair and i'm always scared some ones going to point it out or have rude/dumbass comments like a few of the ppl here.... -_- I'm very insecure about it but no guy seemed to care so far... I still always wear jackets and long sleeves, so i'm thinking about waxing. just in case cuz if you're like me I'm really sensetive about that type of thing

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010):

I actually sorta think its gross when woman have really hairy arms, I mean one could get use to it but it is sorta weird..its better to just shave it or use a hair remover simple as that

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010):

I have been married for 23 years and I don't think my husband has even noticed my arm hair. It bothers me a lot. I shaved them all last summer and hated that too. It didn't take long to be stubbly. It didn't come back thicker or darker like other people have said. I have lightly trimmed my hair and I like that the best. I HATE that I actually care about my arm hair. I am very fortunate to have married a handsome man that loves me for me, not my makeup, hair highlights and other extras. There is actually a LOT of guys out there that are that wonderful. Wait for one of them:)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010):

Personally I prefer if there was no hair anywhere on a woman's body except her head but if the is just light colored peach fuzz or a tad more on her arm it's fine.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010):

Honestly, I have enough hair maintaining to deal with (legs, underarms, "down there", eyebrows, upper lip) and my ex didn't LOVE that I didn't shave/wax my arms, but I couldn't care less. Women do MUCH more in terms of self maintenance than guys do so guys don't really have a right to demand anything more.

And thanks to all the guys that realize that women are HUMAN and hair is NATURAL. My arm hair isn't my favourite thing in the world either and trust me, if I could wish it so, I'd rather not have it there either but I don't have the time or energy to add that to my list so I had to come to terms with it so guys who don't like it should come to terms with it too.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010):

Honestly, I have enough hair maintaining to deal with (legs, underarms, "down there", eyebrows, upper lip) and my ex didn't LOVE that I didn't shave/wax my arms, but I couldn't care less. Women do MUCH more in terms of self maintenance than guys do so guys don't really have a right to demand anything more.

And thanks to all the guys that realize that women are HUMAN and hair is NATURAL. My arm hair isn't my favourite thing in the world either and trust me, if I could wish it so, I'd rather not have it there either but I don't have the time or energy to add that to my list so I had to come to terms with it so guys who don't like it should come to terms with it too.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010):

im a guy, and my girlfriend has arm hair, and i love it, i compliment her on it and everything, i like girls with some hair on them, now if a girl was hairier than me it would be a bit much, but even a decent mount isnt bad, im more of a naturalist, less shaving, less make up is how ilike my girls

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010):

To me, a girl with hairy arms is a complete turn-off. Waxing is the best way to remove it, the pain isn't unbearable there either.

I do believe these "au-natural" persons posting are just being nice. If you anonymously poll a group of men I'm sure the higher percentage will not enjoy hairy armed women.

Women should pamper themselves. You're here, among other things, to be attractive. That's the honest generally speaking truth, anyone who says otherwise is lying to themselves. Look around you, women are portrayed as beautiful, more and more women are removing hair from their bodies.

Just like with other species, either the male or the female is the pretty spectacle, for humans, naturally it's the female. Embrace that though.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009):

no it dosen't matters a lot but some times yes it looks akward in some kind of dresses!

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A female reader, puppyluvr United States +, writes (18 November 2009):

hi...im young and insecure about my arm hair because it's really dark.i wear a jaket most of the time,but latly im confused on wether it matters or not.id rather not take the chance to have someone see it because im scared the guy i like will think it's gross.but if its ment to be its ment to be and God made everyone this way.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009):

It is certainly a turn on for many guys! As some poster once wrote: "Little girls are bare; real women have hair."

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A female reader, elwoodbluelou United States +, writes (23 December 2008):

elwoodbluelou agony auntits so gross when they do shave and then they forget and it gets all stubbly. D: ick.

my cousin does it and it always is prickly.

to me it sounds about as attractive as a guy that shaves his legs...

its unnatural to me.. O.o

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008):

i pretty much have the same problem as you, but all i can say is eathier way your going to get sh** if u do or don't...for exmaple if u do you'll get comments like this

* you shave your arms?

and if u dont you'll get comments like...

* you have hairy arms

*your arm hair is really thick

and stuff like that

society really just needs to shut the hell up -_-

p.s it's better to stay true to yourself though, one day a great man will come walking your way x3

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A male reader, notafraidtoask United States +, writes (20 December 2008):

i love women with arm hair. It dont matter if its blonde, brown, or black. Its natural and sexy i like playing with a womans arm i know that sounds crazy but i do in foreplay type of way.

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A female reader, eveninggates United States +, writes (4 November 2008):

I asked my boyfriend once if he wanted me to remove my armhair, and he commented that he hadn't even noticed it (we've been together for nearly five years, so he's had plenty of opportunity). I do remove hair elsewhere, as is both his and my preference (legs, underarms, pubic), but I don't bother with my arms.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008):

LEAVE IT THE HELL ALONE!!!

So many of us guys absolutely LOVE girls with hairy arms. It's enormously attractive and completely NATURAL. Don't listen to those easily swayed by their peers and the hair removal product advertisers. It's all manipulation and purely money-driven; convincing young women that arm and body hair on females is ugly, un-feminine and un-attractive. Be yourself: someday some worthy guy is going to spot you with your hairy arms and love you like you've never been loved. You're a turn-on, girl!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008):

no not at all, hairs natural, i'm not saying embrace it for all its joy or anything hippe but its not a big deal.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008):

I hate dark arm hair on a woman if it's thick or excessive.

If it's sparse or blonde it's ok. I have very little arm hair for a guy and it is mostly blonde, so I can't stomach a woman with more arm hair than me!

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A male reader, larry1031 United States +, writes (13 October 2008):

larry1031 agony auntNO NO NO-female arm hair is beautiful and a sexy appealing physical attribute-LET IT GROW!! and I have talked to dozens upon dozens of guys about this because female hairy arms have ALWAYS benn a HUGE turn on for me-most male "hair arm lovers" are "in the closet" because of societies' pressure-let it grow-Larry Dawson

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008):

I'm 20 and could care less if you have arm hair. If you don't feel confident and feminine if you have it then you can shave it or wax it. It really doesn't make a difference to me, just as long as you feel good about yourself.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008):

No not at all, women stay natural

Hairy arms on a woman can be just as attractive as a beautiful face or sexy eyes. My wife a Latina has sexy arm hair and its one of the many things I love about who she really is...

If I was a woman I'd be pissed, its seems most women are taught from a young age that you can't be beautiful just being yourself. It must suck to spend your whole life covering up or taking away natural beauty and turning it into something society's majority accepts at a medioca level

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008):

I remove mine, just because I don't feel feminine when I do have a bit of hair there.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008):

Nope. Doesn't matter at all.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008):

In all honesty it doesn't seem to make a difference to me. As long as it's not over grown ( enough to braid for example ) then no big deal. Women are humans too, sheesh =P

Although like a previous poster commented "I'm just one man" so to each its' own.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008):

I am 15 and i have arm hair. It's kinda fair but in some lights you can notice it, well i do at least. I can be self concious about it now and then but i think how often i would have to shave. I just can't be bothered shaving it, if my boyfriend don't like it he will just have to accept it because looks aren't everything

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008):

I actually prefer it. As long as it isn't real thick and dark. (like a guys).

Women are always trying to change themselves to what they think men like and not all men like it.

I also rather have a woman with real size A breasts then size C implants.

Women, just stay natural

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008):

I've had really hairy arms for as long as I can remember. The hair is blond and fine, but gets really thick and long from about halfway up my forearm to just past my elbow. What's unusual about mine is that is is really long - almost 3 inches long near my elbows. I get some comments about it (not all bad) and my current boyfriend has no problem with it. In fact he likes to play with it sometimes.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008):

to be fair you can wax, so it would grow back lighter rather than shaving it. my boyfriend has mentioned that he does not particlarly like my hairy arms...but fuck it can't be bothered with the hassle of dealing with it.....he still loves me though. guess they cant mind that much....if guys were that fussy about everything, lets face it they would never get any pussy!

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (9 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntI guessed I gave a wrong reply in my earlier post. Oops! Very sorry for the mistake.

Before he loves you , it matters to some but after he loves you , it does not matter.

You can dye them lighter shade and it will not be so obvious.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008):

I'm just one man but arm hair dosen't bother me. If anything the stubble that is sure to result would make me back off.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (9 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntWhen you are married, it maybe OK .But when you are single, you would look more sexy with a clean and hairless armpit. He may not tell you but it is a turn off for many males.Don't shave at your own perils.

If you don't like shaving, then you need to cover them up...

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A male reader, Namatjira United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2008):

It is often a cultural thing and certainly genetic factors can affect how noticeable it is.

Is your arm hair particularly dark and long or is it fair, short and wispy. You should be aware that all body hair gets less noticeable with age (more than 50 or 60) so the longer you can put off waxing, shaving or otherwise is only going to help in the long run. Hair tends to grow stronger and darker the more it is shaved.

As a guy it would not affect me if a woman I was dating had arm hair but I do find hair in other places (like underarm) less attractive.

Try not to worry about it and just pay attention to how he acts. If you decide you must do something about it consider changing the guy rather than yourself and take advice from a beautician about getting rid of hair if you must do that.

Cheers

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A female reader, hello1 United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2008):

hello1 agony auntWait you want to shave your arm? Why? is this how pathetic we become that we need to shave every part of our body. Arm hair on a woman is quite light, I don't understand why you need to shave it?? seriously I never heard this before. Don't do it! why, because it grow back even darker and you have to keep on shaving it all the time.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008):

Well i'm not sure on what the majority of the male race would say for sure but my boyfriend at least has admitted he hates arm hair.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008):

I'm not a guy but I would guess that guys would prefer arm hair to arm stubble...

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