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writes: Hi- if it's possible I would just men to answer this question. So I hear that men don't care for strech marks and celulite, guys, is that really true?Like, when I had my son I gained tons of weight and I gain a lot of strech marks on my butt, on my belly and some on my thigh. Thanks to my genetic my strech mark isn't very visible, I have them now for 4 years. The thing that bothers me the most is that the skin around my belly botton got flaccid. I was able to loose all that weight I gained. I'm 5'6, 115 pounds, slim body type, I'm pretty and sexy but when I think of the idea of getting naked in front of another man I get scared he will be desapointed with my strech marks. I've been divorced, my husband never said a thing about them, he never put me down. So I got a new boyfriend and I just didn't make with him yet because I'm afraid he will be desapointed. So do men really care for this? Oh please, don't come with answers like "if he really loves he won't care". I want to know from the lust point of view if man cares for strech marks or not, we've been just together for a couple months, I don't expect him to love me. So my body shape is pretty, I'm very pretty over all, I just have the strech marks, will he be desapointed that I'm not as beautiful as he thought I was? So guys if you see a beautiful woman but then when you see her naked if you notice her strech marks does that turn you off? Thanks.
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reader, Dr Pete  + ♥, writes (15 August 2006):
 I think stretch marks look completely natural and normal and maybe a bit sexy too because it's a common thing on someones skin.
Like the other answer said, stretch marks are really common, but because so many people are ashamed of them, they hide them away so people don't realise just how common they are. Not just women have stretch marks either, men do if they gain and loose weight quickly, or do weight lifting and grow muscle quickly. I had some stretch marks when I was 16 because I lost so much weight and started working out with weights, they were particularly bad between my chest and my upper arm and they took about 8 years to really fade, most of that time I was very self conscious but the last couple of years I realised that they were natural and nothing to be ashamed of so had no problem not having my top on or wearing sleeveless tops, I wish I had done it years sooner.
You can buy something called "PurCellin Oil" or "Bio-Oil" that is said to be a breakthrough in fading stretch marks because it can so deeply penetrate the skin and work within the skin layer that has been affected, it's supposed to work better than laser surgery. It's hard work using through, you must apply it daily and really work it in you skin for 20 minutes for it to have an effect.
More generally - you have insecurities about your body but I promise you, so does your boyfriend. If you're in a good relationship, your insecurities will fade and you'll both feel comfortable and confident naked around each other. You'll be fine, I'm sure :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): You sound very attractive. The only guy that will not like your appearance is not worth your time, anyways. Over half the world population of women out there have stretch marks. Not just women who have birthed children, men have them, even teenagers (females and males)have them..from growing too quickly. If any man doesn't like you for your beautiful, fun personality, your smile, your graciousness, the way he feels in your company-is he really worth it? Why do women do this to themselves? Having such an incredibly negative body image about yourself? Stop doing this to yourself. You are acting pathetically grateful that he chose you. Remember, any guy should be lucky to have YOU!
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