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writes:On a night out what do you think of a girl that makes the first move to approach a guy? Do guys prefer to approach the girl themselves? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 March 2011):
Exactly. 21st century, new ideas. If you like a decent guy, don't wait around - go get him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): Shy ones do like to be approached.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I like guys to approach me personally, its best left that way which is why girls hardly ever and i mean EVER do it! This is because like most girls i'm worried of being rejected and you will look needy that you had to go over there first!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo you guys are saying that it doesnt matter if girls make the first move? My friends (females) always say its the guys who should make the first move never the girl, otherwise you appear desperate. But i think those girls who approach appear confident and we are in the 21st century now!?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 March 2011):
Either, really. All that matters in the end is that a man is speaking to a woman he likes, whether she spoke first or he did.
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reader, tykeavenger24 +, writes (22 March 2011):
to be honest it depends on the guy personally i like being approached but i know that most guys like to approach. my advice would we go for it if you like someone don't let anything get in the way hope i helped
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reader, doublejack  +, writes (22 March 2011):
I'll be perfectly honest - the majority of guys who encounter an assertive girl will assume that she is "easy". So they'll be more than happy to go home with a girl like that or exchange phone numbers with her, but they are also likely to only view her as a short term dating partner... someone to see until a better option comes along (or until they've had their fun).I'm not saying that this view is "right" or defending it in any way. It is just how a typical guy will perceive an aggressive girl. I happen to be the opposite, I actually prefer women who are confident enough to make the first move... but I know I'm in the minority.So it depends on what you're looking for. If you're on a night out and you just want some fun, then go ahead and make the first move. If on the other hand you are looking for a possible long term relationship partner, then you will be better served playing shy.Best of luck!
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reader, Odds +, writes (22 March 2011):
 For most guys, it's a real event whena girl approaches. It makes us quickly assume the girl likes us, and wants us, and is a huge ego boost. That's because chicks rarely approach most guys.It's not so much that we *prefer* to approach, as it is accepting that if we want to meet a girl, we *must* approach. What guys like best, though, isn't so much the approach as it is a girl who is into us. If she approaches, we skip the uncertainty and get straight to the flirting.Some guys are just lucky and get approached all the time, though. A friend of mine is 6'4", very good-looking, and has a very low voice that tends to carry. Chicks approach him all the time, flirting with him out of nowhere. Great guy, but terrible wingman. For him, and guys like him, there is no real difference between approaching and being approached.
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