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writes:There's a guy who want's my girlfriend. She's told him many times that she's not into him. He's tried to break her up with me and told her that he knows she belongs with him and all this other bull. I've been with my girlfriend for 5 months and I trust her with my life. It just bothers me that he doesn't leave her alone. She's a very attractive and beautiful girl. I just wanna smash this guys face. She tells me all the time that this guy has no chance and that i'm the love of her life and she's never going to leave me. She reassures me all the time and it makes me feel good. I'm just tired of this punk who is so desperate that he's actually resorted to using his mom to get her bothering her and bugging me. Any advice? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): I agree with the others, with one caveat: Is your girlfriend REALLY telling him like it is?
I'm sure she's not screwing him in the bathroom between classes or anything, but are you REALLY sure she has been as firm about telling him to back off as you have? Some people like the attention a little more than they will admit. Others are just not comfortable with having such an unpleasant conversation with someone who is being so nice to them all the time.
If she is not, then it's easy for this guy to mentally write off the rejection as more your doing than hers. It's tempting for him to view her as being "under your spell" rather than genuinely preferring you so clearly. If that idea is there, don't let it continue to fester. Make sure he has heard it from HER as well as you.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
 So kick his ass, just don't do it on school property.
The better option would be to take him aside first and let him know he needs to leave her alone and that you'll take care of business if he doesn't. Your girlfriend also should respect your relationship by not talking with him or taking his calls or she's just leading him on. If she's even allowing discussions about your relationship with this guy, that's not a good boundary. Good luck.
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reader, chelay +, writes (2 November 2009):
 i think you shoul think about just sitting down or what ever and just having a straight up talk with him and tell him you would like it if he would leave her alone while you and her dated and if he dont back off thn something is up
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