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writes:Recently my grandmother has found that my grandfather has been going on the internet and watching pornographic videos on a regular basis. She has gone to the extreme of checking the internet history and deleting it all as soon as he leaves the house. It has become a serious problem because now she hates leaving him in the house on his own in case he goes on the internet and she has even asked me to put a virus on his computer so he can't use it! I know it sounds selfish but I hate having to listen to my grandmother complain about which sites he has visited everytime i go to visit her. I have asked her to talk to my grandfather about this problem as it is starting to effect the entire family but she said that if she told him that she knew about his internet usage then she would leave him. I love my grandparents and would hate for them to split up, but I find myself visiting them less now because I can't stand my grandmother talking about it all the time and sending me upstairs to do 'errands' for her whenever my grandfather is upstairs alone so that he will not go on the computer. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thankyou.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 June 2010):
 PS: Your grandfather (like a lot of men) has been looking at pornography for years. But he's got careless with the internet, it's so much easier to hide magazines.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 June 2010):
Go upstairs and give your grandfather a computer lesson, teach him how to delete his history.. Firefox has an option to instantly delete browser history every time he comes off..
Otherwise tell him to go to computer class and get someone there to do it.
You can tell him that grandma knows and is getting upset, he needs to hide his tracks better.
Then as far as grandma is concerned, you had a word with him and you think that he will stop now. If you can't do this, get one of the men (father, brother, uncle etc to deal with it) The men will find it funny and they will help him.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Hello. What a pickle. Its unfair of your grandmother to involve you in this. She really does have to talk to your grandfather. Shes probably very disconbobulated by the whole situation but telling everyone else isnt going to solve the problem, bless her. Make a stand. Tell her it upsets you to see her upset and she HAS to speak to your grandfather because its making you feel uncomfy when you visit now. People are funny creatures. All the while she thinks its only her thats upset, she probably wont do much but moan Once she knows her situation is upsetting you too...i would put money on it that she will talk to him and sort things out. So be frank with her and explain kindly, why you dont visit much now x
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reader, Rachael2310 +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Hello,You poor thing! In many ways it's a shock for your grand mother, however, you are not selfish at all. It's fine telling you that she is upset but it is not your relationship. It's hers. Whatever is happening between her and her husband is her problem and they should be dealing with it together and as adults, not dragging the grand children into it.Gently tell her that you refuse to listen to it any more! Only she can sort this out and talk to her husband. There is nothing to be achieved by not talking to him and moaning about him behind his back. Keep your chin up and stay strong. By telling your grandma to talk to your granddad instead does not mean you're selfsh and it doesn't mean you don't love her. Just remind her that you do love her and so it's importnat to you that she talks to him instead.Good luck and let me know how you get on
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