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writes:hi i have 2 questions.i know one of them isnt a relationship question but ive had really good advice on this site before so i need to ask.1) last night, totally hammered, i text the guy ive been in love with for a year, and told i still have feelings for him! (arghh!) we have quite alot of history, hes my brothers best mate and hes 3 and a bit years older then me so its never happened but there is always a connection, BUT even so, i know when iv'e done something stupid. woke up this morning thinking oh dear god!!my question is, how the hell do i get out of this one, when i next see him or talk to him, probably really soon, hes gonna ask what the hell i'm playing at... how do i get myself out of this one? any advice will be greatly appriciated. 2) not relationship related but i would really like some advice. i drunk alot last night (alot) i know very stupid thing to do, i get that, but i woke up this morning and i have an aching emptyness in the back of my stomach and going all the way up my back, its hurts when i cough or laugh, and it sends shooting pains to my heart. what is this? ive never had this before when ive drunk, and i have drunk more than i did last night and have never had this pain before, no it isn't PMS either.thankyouuuu anyone who gives me some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): answer to the first question i can give the second one i am afraid i cannot. you could simply tell him you were drunk. easiest answer to that question.
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (1 January 2008):
 I was going to email you with this and then I realized that others may benefit from it.
I have been drinking since I was 17. I drank too much, often on the weekends, until I was about 22. I had my first child shortly before my 24th birthday and can count the times I got drunk between 1986 and 2007 on one hand.
The year we just wrapped up has been, by far, the most difficult year of my life. I have drank more this year than I have in any couple of years, since 1986. It would not be too much by most people's standards but you have to realize that I averaged one or two drinks a MONTH until this year.
That said ... I have recognized that if I have more than one beer or if I have any wine at all, I am SO SAD the next day. If I drank several glasses of wine, I would be weepy, off and on, for a few days.
We're all different. I am not suggesting that this is anything like your experience. But ... you said that when you are depressed, you have a bit of a problem with the alcohol. Odds are that since alcohol is a depressant, as opposed to an upper like caffeine or some illicit drugs, it is only making you worse.
It has never been a problem for me before, but then, I was having one or two drinks a month before ... so there was no way to establish a pattern. Watch yourself. See if you tie one on, how you are for the next few days.
It's something I've watched in myself, so I just felt a responsibility to let you know, in case it could help you in your situation at all.
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni mean if the stomach pain gets worse ill go to the doctors not the drinking problem
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reader, tytoalba  +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Well, I'd listen to baby duck about the first, but the second is either a hangover, your liver working hard to get the alcohol out, or you're just really stiff. Nothing to worry about {D
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice ill probably dea with it in that way. And also yes i am 15, and i have abit of an alcahole problem when i'm depressed. i will go to the doctor if it gets worse.
thanks again =)
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (1 January 2008):
as for the first issue: just be honest!
"Oh, man ... I am soooo embarrassed ... I was drunk and, well, you know ... I probably should have just gone to sleep instead of texting you but what's done is done ... I hope we can just laugh about this and then forget it ..."
smiling sweetly
as for the other issue, I have no idea ... maybe you should stick to drinking water and eating dry toast or crackers until it passes ... if it does not go away or gets worse, get to a doctor, pronto
And if you're truly 13-15 years old, I'd like to lovingly suggest that you reign yourself in, with the drinking. =)
Have a healthy and happy new year ...
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reader, LouLee +, writes (1 January 2008):
 1st question, just say to him your mate sent it as a joke? or you sent that same message to everyone in your phone contacts as a joke cos you were very hammered. 2nd question, i really don't know sorry! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): Well I think you should tell him the truth. When you see him act naturally and if he asks don't give it much thought and tell him you were very drunk and crazy and to please forget you because it will never happen again. And never talk about the incident again. What if he dind't get the message? There's always a possibility so don't spend new year's day worrying.
As to the other question I've never gotten drunk and never will so I don't know. But if you have thrown up recently that would explain the stomach pain.
I've done things being 100% sober and then wondering about why does it hurt here and there and then remembering what I did and understanding the pain or scar. So I think it must have been something you did but don't remember. You should feel better tomorrow.
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