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writes:So ive read through many posts on this similiar topic and need a little help myself. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 7 months (shes 18 im 21). Everything was great up until a week and a half ago when we go into our first two arguements( which we both apologized for and got over) and then after that she said she wanted a break.To Fill in some background information she is a very independent person and likes to deal with things on her own and she has also been going through a very tought time, she didnt graduate highschool due to a health condition involving her heart that start a little over a year ago and she also has lots of problems at home. Her parents are divorced and she lives with her mom and the moms boyfriend (who she cant stand) and her father doesnt act like a father to her.she had been texting me everynight since the start of this break and it was just normal talk so me being confused about everything i went and talked to her about it. I asked what was going because i was confused as things happened so suddenly. She told me she was very stressed out with everything and had things she needed to take care of and she wasnt sure if she wanted to be in any relationship at moment because of everything going on. She felt being in a relationship would just make her more stressed out even though she loves and cares about me. she told me she still wants us to be in each others lives , hang out and then see where things goes she doesnt know maybe well get back together. So i told her how i felt and how i want to still be in her life but would have a hard time especially if she met another guy which she said she understood.So this morning (we talked last nigh) i texted her and said that after the talk we had i felt like we both love and care for each other more then just friends and that i feel i think its best if we take some time off from each other completely . i also told her that i dont mean this as in dissappearing cuz i love her and still want to be in here life just no calling or texting for a week or so. She just responded with "Ok Alex"I need some help , i dont know if i was right or wrong in saying that or what i should do.I understand i am young and have my whole life infront of me especially since ill be graduating from a great university in a year and i probably will find some else eventually but ive never met a girl like her and i just dont know what to do
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 When she tell you about the other guy, did you feel jealous? I am from a distant and I can't hear her nuance. Do you think she wanted a break because she met another guy? The greatest healing can come from cuddling with a boyfriend. I don't really agree with her reason to want a break. After my boyfriend's brother died, he was depressed and he ate only toast the whole day. He was weak but he still wanted to see me late at night. I felt the most love when I just hugged him for 10 minutes because I knew he just couldn't "do it." That was a very romantic moment because I was showing him I still love him and accept him even though he was depressed, and he showed me even though he wanted to die, he still wanted to see me and needed me. Of course there was pressure on his side to be stronger for me, but the intimacy is what he needed most.
You are right, you would find somebody eventually. No girl is alike. They all have something unique about them.
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