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*hawk2817
writes:So I ask this one girl out very nicely (just asked if she wanted to go to a show my cousin is playing at and grab dinner or something) and she said she had something to do. So i dint know if she was rejecting me or if she actually had something to do. So I was like, 'well if you are busy we could do something later or if your not interested that's totally fine too'. She was hesitant, but she said she wasnt looking for anything right now so I just said it was cool and walked off. She apologised but i told her its fine, i wouldn't want to go out with someone I didnt like. To this, she started freaking out by saying that it was not that, so I told her its fine, dont worry and walked away.3-5 weeks later, im at my frat, just chilling she comes in for our party, knowing it would be awkward I went to a diff part of the house and she keeps following me and trying to talk to me. I say hi and talk to my bro in the hall and she tries to start a convo.I dont know if she just feels guilty and its her guilt talking or what, but I want her to stop trying to talk to me. Its weird. I dont make a huge deal when I get rejected but I always move on (i know, its somehow a guys job to put himself out there and get rejected, but i dont take it to heart) but i dont like to make awkward conversations with those women esp at MY house. She even added me on fb. how do I tell her to stop pitying me. Even if she is interested (all of a sudden) i want her to stop, because I am seeing another girl; but dont want to say this to her as I am not sure if she is interested ( i would sound arrogant if I just assumed she did). How do I get her to stop showing up at my frat and stuff?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Ah well-they say everybody deserves a second chance :)
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reader, jhawk2817 +, writes (29 April 2010):
jhawk2817 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell no she doesnt know any of the other guys at the frat!
Her friend told me on fb that she wants to go out with me but idk i think i wont be as interested in her since it will be in the back of my mind that she once turned me down and might be awkward for her to be with me. So I would not choose to see her.
But lo and behold, she msgd me on facebook and asked me what was up with me lately. Wth??
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (26 April 2010):
Why should she be pitying you ? She was acting normal- you see someone you know,you go say hi.
Don't overstress about that. Just ignore her.
You can't stop her from showing up at the frat, and you can't assume she is showing up just because of you. Maybe she is after some other guy now.
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (26 April 2010):
It seems to me like you played the situation very well. Instead of whining or insisting like many guys do, you were mature about it and walked away.
She's not pitying you. Quite the opposite.
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