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writes:I need help interpreting a birthday gift I received from my new boyfriend. We met online about 2 months ago, live 4-5 hours apart, hit it off right away and have met in person 3 times, talking on phone twice/week for a long talk, with him saying he wants to be boyfriend/girlfriend. He's seemed very kind and smart, although perhaps not relationship savvy, although he was previously married over 5 years. The gift was a wooden imported flying pig, and a t-shirt from a friend's radio station. I'm abit sensitive about gifts in general I admit but this is perplexing.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 October 2016):
 At the moment you both don't really know each other to well yet. I mean you have only met each other three times. So he probably did not have a clue what to get you. Maybe his friend gave him the t-shirt and as for the pig well maybe he thought it would be a nice gift.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (21 October 2016):
 I can only echo the other great aunts - it seems like he has a unique taste in gifts and doesn't really know you yet, so doesn't know what else to get you.
I think it's too early to be giving gifts, to be honest - hence why they're so random and not for a special reason (birthday/Christmas).
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 October 2016):
 I have no idea what a wooden pig means, the T-shirt was probably free if it's from his friend's radio show. Or he bought because he thinks his friend's show is cool and should be promoted so two flies with one stone. Did he wear one you complimented once?
My guess? Like Cindy mentioned he is trying to be cute or whimsical.
Have you two had a chat where the expression "if pigs could fly " come up?
It seems like a couple of " I really don't know you" gifts. Either he has no clue what you find cute/interesting or he has odd taste in little gifts.
Some people are just not good at gift giving. Took my husband over a decade to grasp the idea of gift giving where you ACTUALLY find something the other person will LIKE/WANT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2016): In my experience men are hopeless at knowing what women like. I have a lot of experience of that as my father was autistic so he would buy presents that HE would like, such as a filofax when I was a little girl.
You've only known him 2 months and met 3 times so a grand gesture like perfume might seem over the top and scare you off. I agree with Cindy he bought you something quirky for a bit of fun to make you smile. Try not to read too much into it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 October 2016):
 I don't think there's much to interpret, I guess he just wanted to be cutesy or whimsical or original . If you have a look on Ebay you'll see it's full of flying pigs statues, which go in price from a couple of bucks to quite expensive. An " imported wooden flying pig " could be a South Asian demon-chaser : it's a lucky charm !
Maybe that's not a kind of object that particularly suits your tastes, oth you don't know each other much and he does not know your tastes , or what could be your ideal birthday gift. If you keep dating, probably you'll have time to educate him about this .
P.S. If you really don't like your gift- please ship it to me ... I'll add it to my little collection of pigs figurines :)... in porcelain, in silver, in cast iron... I don't have a wooden one , though:)
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