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writes:Okay well im 18 and me and my last gf dated 2 years and my current gf and me have been dating around 2 years...so its not my first rodeo....but to my question..my gf and me are generally very happy with each other but lately there are days were she is genuinely hateful. I mean most of the time I don't even do anything...not that im putting it all on her, and I wouldn't be wasting my time asking this if it wasn't true....but whats going on? Her mom has a slight bipolar disorder so could she have it? Or is she losing her love toward me? Ive asked her whats up before and she just bitches me out...(which I knew was a bad idea to begin with)...but anyway what to do? Its not unbearable, but its hella annoying some days... Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 She has to know you don't intentionally cause her mood swings. If she's mad even when you did nothing, maybe doing nothing is the problem if she feels you are ignoring her. So if you have to wait till she gets moody to ask what's wrong it's already too late. That's not just for you but for her as well. It's also her responsibility to communicate on how to make things better. You can reassure her that you love her. Just a little reassurance each day goes a long way. So if you have to wait till she gets moody to ask what's wrong it's already too late. When you ask what's up it sounds too casual, she feels you are downplaying her emotions. She wants to feel important even if emotions are not rational. You can tell her having mood swings are fine. She's bitching you out because she knows that mood swings turn you off but she can't deny her feelings either so that's frustrating to her. She needs to feel you are her emotional rock, and not someone who thinks an emotional woman is a psychologically defective item. What you are describing here is not serious enough to be bi polar. Make it safe for her to talk to you. When she calms down tell her she had been annoying and show her healthier ways to express her negative feelings.
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