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writes:I'm 13 and im having trouble getting to 2nd. every girl ive dated never wants to go that far. Do you have any tips on moving from 1st to 2nd? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): A note onto the last responders comment: just because you're ready for it doesn't mean she is, by since you're so concerned about this, clearly NEITHER of you are ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): i gotta hand it 2 the british kid here...take ur time and gradually move 2 2nd(im a 14 GIRL! so i no how it is0 dont try 2 keep going if she says no...NO MEANS NO!!! just cause UR ready 4 it doesnt mean SHES ready 4 it
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): The girls aren't ready. They are only 13 so won't want to go further than that. Unless you get a girl like you, you know the type I mean. By the time kids hit 15, that's when I noticed people were getting up to doing more sexual things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): good grief. you're 13. practically no relationship should be called a relationship until you're OUT of high school. high school dating is stupid, fueled by hormones, selfishness and bettering of ones status. i've been there, done that. get over yourself, you should be playing soccer and watching cartoons, not feeling up girls. if sincerely hope your attitude towards girls changes before you get to my age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Slow your roll kid. Focus on school and keep it in your pants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Dude! Seriously???? No!You make it seem like girls are just a statistic to be attained! If thats what you want and it's your goal, OF COURSE it won't happen. Girls get mad when you're trying to use them. With good reason... You're 13. I'm sorry that this sounds condescending, but slow down. You clearly aren't ready for the kind of emotional attachment necessary for any self-respecting girl to want to "go to 2nd".I'm 15, I've had a decent number of bfs, I've even been legitimately in love once, yet I never have let any of them touch the girls. And I don't intend to for a LONG while.Be a sweet bf, cherish your girl and not her goodies. Sheesh.-GG
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (13 May 2009):
 well if she doesnt want to then leave it at that damn. whats up with all these lil kids tryin to rush things. take it slow.
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reader, misswalston +, writes (13 May 2009):
 Well, first of all, I think you should not be so concerned with getting to "2nd base". You are still young and you have plenty of time to go further. Enjoy going out to the movies, to the park, to the mall. Basically I am telling you to enjoy 13!!!!!!! Good things come to those who wait young man.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Firstly this shouldn't be your goal. If you really want to reach second don't think about it. As werid as it seems chicks have a sixth sense when it comes to this kind of thing, if they know you want that you wouldn't get that. Find yourself a cool girl one how can throw a ball, and play games. Therefore one game leads to another and soon you'll reach there. so play it cool.
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reader, mytwocents +, writes (13 May 2009):
 Kid, it's been so long since I've heard that terminology that I've forgotten what "second" even is. Is that hand-under-the-shirt? Maybe it's been updated since I was your age. Plus, I think you have to be American to know it, because these Brits don't know much about baseball. Soccer, yes. Except they call it football.
I suspect that your mistake is that you're trying to STEAL second and the pitcher is picking you off every time. You’re being careless. Your strategy should be to be to get your teammate to hit the ball hard enough that you can just coast slowly into second. In other words: you need to get smoother, my friend.
When you kiss a girl, you need to gradually escalate things. First make the kisses more intense, then touch her in non-private areas, kiss her neck. Stay at that level for a while and eventually get closer to the goods. Touch over the clothes. After a few good make-out sessions, take it to the next level. The key is gradual, smooth, and romantic. Who can resist that?
Just remember that no means no. If you try to steal the base by force, the whole bench is going to come out and beat you down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): You are 13 years old. It's called take your time!
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